[Starskysea]

I think everyone who labels having nationality/race preferences in relationships as racist are pushing things a bit far. The UN defines racial discrimination as "any distinction, exclusion, restriction, or preference based on race, color, descent, or national or ethnic origin that has the purpose or effect of nullifying or impairing the recognition, enjoyment or exercise, on an equal footing, of human rights and fundamental freedoms in the political, economic, social, cultural or any other field of public life" Preferences in choice of dating or life partner are part of private life and either way do not limit anyone's human rights or fundamental freedoms as far as I'm aware. I doubt any of the people expressing a preference for Japanese guys or girls look down on or denigrate other races. It's simply a question of traits or ideas we find more attractive. I know there's a lot of debate on sensitive issues like racism, but I think that, just as we shouldn't let discrimination get out of hand, we can't try to enforce absolutes in people's tastes...we're human and are inevitably going to have some racial/nationality/physical bias...the question is what we do about it and how open-minded we are about things that lie outside the bias.

But to answer the thread, I've never met or interacted with a Japanese guy, so I can only base my opinion on Japanese men I've seen in videos. I used to want to date a Japanese guy because of being into anime, jpop, dramas and so on. All the guys shown in these domains are very delicate, beautiful, charismatic, etc. But right now I'm wondering if I'm really attracted to that image and wondering what regular Japanese guys are like. I'm aware that few of them will be like the strong, good-looking tsunderes from the shoujos I've read, or the talented, eccentric v-kei artists whose videos I've watched. Of course I would like to go out with, say, Miyavi, or Yoh from Koukou Debut. But I'm more realistic now, and I don't know what to expect....I'm afraid the cultural gap and different social and gender expectations will be too much of a challenge if I do meet a Japanese guy I like.