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Quailboy 06-13-2009 06:38 AM

A quick passage for those that care.
 
I've met a very wise person in the past few days, my life hasn't been quite what I wanted in the past few years.

I used to be a straight A student grade 1-6 and I would always think that my life was great.

Then once I was held back from 8th grade I started to smoke pot, it was a choice of free will, I chose to do it and take the lazy way out of my life.

Right now, I'm sitting here, 3 years later drunk, and sitting in a very comfartable chair of a person I've known for 3 days now and having a revolation of my life.

I apologize for the misspelling of a few of these words because of my current state of mind, but hopefully you will be able to understand what I'm saying in this blog.

This man, Jay, I met a few days ago when I decided to hang out with Nancy and taking CCC's with her, thinking I have nothing better to do with my life. It was a fun time, filled with nothing I can really remember, thinking this is all I have to look forward to, thinking that this is as good as my life as is good as its going to be.

Jay has had me at his place for a few days now, I was drinking tonight and we got on the dicussion of life, he brought up "Free Choice" Which is something I really never thought about, that everything in your life is something that you made happen, wether it be something good or bad, it was your choice, the bad choices are mostely lazyness because you didn't want to take the hard way out. But there are people that choose to take the harder way, the better way of life and make desictions that may take longer to complete but end up quite a bit better in the long run.

I thought about my life in the past few years and have realized thatmost of the desicions I have made were out of lazyness and sloth, I'm not one to bleieve in faith but, I do believe in Free Choice.

This has made me quite determined to make myself a better person, no matter what it takes, I will live a better life than what my dad has. I now plan ongoing back to High School and finishing with all AP classes completed with high grades I then want to go to college and teach english in Japan.

I have to thank you Jay, even though you are the person I possibly know the least in mylife, you have left the biggest influence, much more than my father ever could. You are my insperation to living a better life. I thank you.

hoshikuzu 06-13-2009 06:53 AM

I'm glad to hear that you're gonna do something better with your life, Aaron.
It makes me happy and I wish that you'll succed with it.
Drugs don't do anything good unless if you need them for medicale(sp?) reasons.
They can both hurt you and the people around you.
But I wish you good luck and don't give up!

JackIsLost 06-13-2009 07:08 AM

two things come in mind here
actions speaks louder than words (drunk words from what i'm hearing)
old habits die hard
wish you the best of luck though

MMM 06-13-2009 07:12 AM

If you are really serious, then more power to you.

I have successful friends and unsuccessful friends.

My successful friends credit their own choices for their success.

My unsuccessful friends blame others for their unsuccess.

Which do you want to be?

JackIsLost 06-13-2009 07:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MMM (Post 733664)
If you are really serious, then more power to you.

My unsuccessful friends blame others for their unsuccess.

Which do you want to be?

unsuccess sounds like a funny word :)

Tenchu 06-13-2009 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by MMM (Post 733664)
Which do you want to be?

You talk as if life is a choose your own adventure story book. My life is niether unsuccessful nor is it successful, it's just amazing (amazing may not be the best word, I more so mean hard to believe). That is because I had to make the hard decisions. Not the ones where the easy way out is just being lazy, but where there is no real choice.

A lot of things you attempt, they'll never work. I just got back from one night in Sydney... what did I go to Sydney for one night for? You'd probably never believe me. All I did was lay in a hotel bed crying all night, missing my wife. In the end, I just came home. But now my life is going to be a lot harder. This isn't the easy way out, this was just one of those hard decisions.

People who credit their success to making hard decisions, I don't really believe most of them. I mean, do barely any of them even know what a hard decision is? I don't think so. Perhaps if I had a weaker heart, I'd be one of those "successful" people you're thinking of.

In the end, if you're going to measure your life by how many penies are in your pocket, I'd say you never lived life to begin with.

MMM 06-13-2009 07:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JackIsLost (Post 733666)
unsuccess sounds like a funny word :)

I am sorry. I used it for ease of understanding, but the correct phrasing would be "lack of success"

MMM 06-13-2009 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 733667)
You talk as if life is a choose your own adventure story book. My life is niether unsuccessful nor is it successful, it's just amazing (amazing may not be the best word, I more so mean hard to believe). That is because I had to make the hard decisions. Not the ones where the easy way out is just being lazy, but where there is no real choice.

But it is "choose your own adventure". You know that, Tenchu. The other option is life chooses your options for you, which is how too many posters here think. You are the best example of a man who has "chosen his own adventure".

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Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 733667)
A lot of things you attempt, they'll never work. I just got back from one night in Sydney... what did I go to Sydney for one night for? You'd probably never believe me. All I did was lay in a hotel bed crying all night, missing my wife. In the end, I just came home. But now my life is going to be a lot harder. This isn't the easy way out, this was just one of those hard decisions.

"Choose your own adventure" doesn't guarantee success. Where's the excitement if it did?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 733667)
People who credit their success to making hard decisions, I don't really believe most of them. I mean, do barely any of them even know what a hard decision is? I don't think so. Perhaps if I had a weaker heart, I'd be one of those "successful" people you're thinking of.

Whether you are successful or not is probably a personal decision. Certainly there are successful people that fell into their success and were lucky, but I am talking about risk-takers who create their own success.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 733667)
In the end, if you're going to measure your life by how many penies are in your pocket, I'd say you never lived life to begin with.

Did I mention wallet-size as a measure of success?

JayT 06-13-2009 09:00 AM

good luck!
Maybe one day we'll pass by each other at Shibuya Crossing :vsign:

Quailboy 06-13-2009 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by TheLastFortnight (Post 733662)
As far as I know this isn't your blog, were you drunk and mistook JF with your blog or what?

All of this is quite moving and all that and I understand your point, but sincerely what kind of reply are you expecting?

First you were stealing for the thrill and now you were smoking pot, what next Quail?

I accidentaly copy and pasted it from my blog that rarely gets updated.


I want to thank all of you for the support from all of you.

Quailboy 06-13-2009 09:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MMM (Post 733664)
If you are really serious, then more power to you.

I have successful friends and unsuccessful friends.

My successful friends credit their own choices for their success.

My unsuccessful friends blame others for their unsuccess.

Which do you want to be?

MMM You are another person I look to for insperation, your always making me think and I appreaciate(sp?) that greatly.

YukisUke 06-13-2009 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 733813)
MMM You are another person I look to for insperation, your always making me think and I appreaciate(sp?) that greatly.

I wish the best of luck to you. And even though I may never get to meet you, I hope that you make your own dreams come true and that you stick with it. :)

SaintKat 06-13-2009 10:24 PM

Best of luck OP. I wish you every success in life.
:D

Salvanas 06-14-2009 11:21 AM

Good luck, all I wish to say is don't make long term aims yet.

You've been living a lazy life till now, and like it or not, your body and mind isn't used to that. It'll get harder and harder to resist it, because you'll have to do stuff you never used to do before, and it'll grate on your nerves. You'll become pissed easily, and you'll feel like giving up.

Don't.

My advice, is to aim on finishing High School first. Then, you aim to finish college, then you aim for the job you want to do. For people that haven't lead a productive life till this moment, a step by step approach is advisable.

Why? Because long term goals will only seem so far away, and you'll start to get impatient. With shorter goals, you'll be able to fulfil these goals, and while doing so, getting up your confidence that you're doing well, and that you can do it.

Also, the hard part will be still feeling like this after becoming sober.

Quailboy 06-14-2009 06:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Salvanas (Post 734021)
Good luck, all I wish to say is don't make long term aims yet.

You've been living a lazy life till now, and like it or not, your body and mind isn't used to that. It'll get harder and harder to resist it, because you'll have to do stuff you never used to do before, and it'll grate on your nerves. You'll become pissed easily, and you'll feel like giving up.

Don't.

My advice, is to aim on finishing High School first. Then, you aim to finish college, then you aim for the job you want to do. For people that haven't lead a productive life till this moment, a step by step approach is advisable.

Why? Because long term goals will only seem so far away, and you'll start to get impatient. With shorter goals, you'll be able to fulfil these goals, and while doing so, getting up your confidence that you're doing well, and that you can do it.

Also, the hard part will be still feeling like this after becoming sober.

That was an issue, I woke up and then re-read the thread, I became determined again after reading it and thinking for a bit,

YukisUke 06-15-2009 02:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734069)
That was an issue, I woke up and then re-read the thread, I became determined again after reading it and thinking for a bit,

I'm glad you did.

Tenchu 06-15-2009 07:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734069)
That was an issue, I woke up and then re-read the thread, I became determined again after reading it and thinking for a bit,

You should aim to follow in our hero, Chun Li, footsteps... then you can't go wrong! SF cop/MA expert... plus super sexy... that is awesome...

Quailboy 06-15-2009 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 734264)
You should aim to follow in our hero, Chun Li, footsteps... then you can't go wrong! SF cop/MA expert... plus super sexy... that is awesome...

Ugh, sorry Tenchu but being a Cop is not on my list whatsoever. I would possibly shoot myself if I was one.

YukisUke 06-15-2009 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734396)
Ugh, sorry Tenchu but being a Cop is not on my list whatsoever. I would possibly shoot myself if I was one.

No hard feelings there! LOL.

coolforcats1 06-15-2009 08:26 PM

Good luck! :D

bELyVIS 06-15-2009 09:00 PM

Rent the DVD "The Secret". It might sound like BS at first, but every successful person (and rich) has used this theory to get what they wanted from life. There are many books to prove it. It changed my life. It won't be easy, but nothing worth having is. Good luck.

YukisUke 06-16-2009 12:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bELyVIS (Post 734423)
Rent the DVD "The Secret". It might sound like BS at first, but every successful person (and rich) has used this theory to get what they wanted from life. There are many books to prove it. It changed my life. It won't be easy, but nothing worth having is. Good luck.

That was very nice of you, bELyVIS.

Yuna7780 06-16-2009 01:25 AM

Thank you for the good message. I'm really glad that you are picking up your feet and you have a will to make yourself go somewhere.

More power to you, man.

YukisUke 06-16-2009 06:39 PM

Whatever you do, don't give up! Life is just a timeline of challenges that we all have to endure. So just make sure your timeline doesn't end up being short.

Quailboy 06-16-2009 06:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by YukisUke (Post 734692)
Whatever you do, don't give up! Life is just a timeline of challenges that we all have to endure. So just make sure your timeline doesn't end up being short.

I would rather it be short and eventful than long and boring though..

YukisUke 06-16-2009 06:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734693)
I would rather it be short and eventful than long and boring though..

That's true. :)

MMM 06-16-2009 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734693)
I would rather it be short and eventful than long and boring though..

I am sure the people that love you would not agree.

Just curious, when is this program of the "new you" going to start?

Salvanas 06-16-2009 07:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734693)
I would rather it be short and eventful than long and boring though..

How about trying to make it long and eventful, then? Always such a thing.

Your life, is what you make of it.

seiki 06-16-2009 08:09 PM

I just wanted to say good luck and to just perservere even when times get hard and you just feel like screaming you can pm me. I will listen. Good luck.

Quailboy 06-16-2009 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MMM (Post 734702)
I am sure the people that love you would not agree.

Just curious, when is this program of the "new you" going to start?

So there are maybe 2 people that would not agree with me.

As soon as I can go back to school, so in the Fall..straight A's son!

YukisUke 06-16-2009 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734776)
So there are maybe 2 people that would not agree with me.

As soon as I can go back to school, so in the Fall..straight A's son!

Hooray 4 straight A's!:D

MMM 06-16-2009 09:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quailboy (Post 734776)
So there are maybe 2 people that would not agree with me.

As soon as I can go back to school, so in the Fall..straight A's son!

That's 2 more than some people got.

YukisUke 06-16-2009 09:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MMM (Post 734784)
That's 2 more than some people got.

Wait. What r u talking about? :confused:

Miyavifan 07-11-2009 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by YukisUke (Post 734790)
Wait. What r u talking about? :confused:

He means some people have no one who would disagree with them.

YukisUke 07-13-2009 06:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Miyavifan (Post 744664)
He means some people have no one who would disagree with them.

Oh. Thanks for letting me in on that. :)


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