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ozkai 10-28-2009 12:01 PM

Father's Taking Daughters on dates
 
When I lived in Japan, I had seen a few family entertainment programmes on the subject of father;s dating their own daughters.

Do you think this is like a bonding type thing or is it more of a fantasy thing for the Father's?

RobinMask 10-28-2009 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ozkai (Post 780001)
When I lived in Japan, I had seen a few family entertainment programmes on the subject of father;s dating their own daughters.

Do you think this is like a bonding type thing or is it more of a fantasy thing for the Father's?

By the sounds of it I'd imagine it to be a bonding excercise, rather than a 'date'. It sounds more like a planned time/event where the two can spend quality time together, in which case 'date' sounds kind of an iffy term to me, lol.

Nyororin 10-28-2009 01:05 PM

Date is a term used for going out somewhere with the opposite gender, only the two of you. It doesn`t have to have any underlying meaning. Also, the father-daughter date isn`t just a Japan thing. Pretty much all my female friends in the US had "dates" with their dads. Now that I think about it, mother-son dates weren`t all that uncommon either.

I see it as both a bonding experience for the two of them, as I`m willing to bet that dad doesn`t have a chance to spend too much time with his daughter... And as a learning experience for the daughter, so she can see what it`s like to go out to a nice restaurant, etc.

As a child I had several "dates" with uncles and with my grandfather, but nothing EVER was anything above "let`s eat a nice meal, and get to know eachother!" - male relatives are pushed so far away sometimes that it`s hard to get to know them.

onlybyron 10-28-2009 01:31 PM

wow when i read the title i was like "WTF" but now that i think about it it is a good idea, unless you mean non-platonic love (if that makes sence) then its wrong.
my dad never did this with any of my sisters. one of my sisters doesnt talk to him XD


now that i think about it my dad has been trying to take me places like the beach but it was also with my brother... it didnt go well, it was raining XDD

LUVS

Allene7 10-28-2009 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ozkai (Post 780001)
When I lived in Japan, I had seen a few family entertainment programmes on the subject of father;s dating their own daughters.

Do you think this is like a bonding type thing or is it more of a fantasy thing for the Father's?

I definitely think it's a bonding thing. I also think it's a great idea. I was only able to go out with my dad alone when I was younger a handful of times but I had so much fun just spending time with him without my other siblings around. It made me feel very special. My dad also took the opportunity to tell me what kind of things guys should do for me and to tell/show me that I deserved to be treated well. Which I think it's good to know how you should be treated by the opposite sex because it's pretty easy to be walked all over.

So I think the one on one bonding time with dads and daughters, as well as, moms and sons is a wonderful thing to do. Although, I also think it's something that should be done when the kids are young. If you wait until they get too old to do this kind of thing I think you'll only get rebellion, unless you already have a very close relationship with your parents.

calv930 10-28-2009 02:30 PM

This isn't "wrong" in anyway, unless it gets too far...

It's all right for family to be on "dates"(not the love relationship term) because well...it's family.

There are like rumors about incest for Japanese...but there are also in other places of the world.

Naoko 10-28-2009 03:31 PM

My dad is like my best friend. As we are very close, we do indeed go on "dates." It's not some sick, perverted thing like some people would take it as. It's just spending time together. I do the same thing with my mom, it's just called a "Girl's Night Out" then, lol.

TalnSG 10-28-2009 03:50 PM

Like everyone else who has posted so far, I expect this is a bonding experience. But I had a totally different thought when I saw the thread.

I wonder how many Dad's consider taking their daughters along on dates with women their own age. I really considered asking along the daughter of one man I was dating when we were first getting to know each other. Its a very effective way of keeping things toned way down and assessing how he treats others.

spicytuna 10-28-2009 05:02 PM

Perhaps you should have watched the show a little more carefully as they explained their reasons.

Aniki 10-28-2009 05:09 PM

Do they kiss on dates too?


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