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JasonTakeshi 10-11-2010 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MMM (Post 831225)
Sounds like Sweden is pretty supportive of new families.

Europe in general or atleast the EU.

http://www.familyandparenting.org/Fi...efactsheet.pdf

But that doesn't mean you will have a life full of luxury & comfort.

LillyFields 10-11-2010 11:00 PM

Wishing you both lots of happiness!:rheart:

Dayanx 10-11-2010 11:14 PM

Financial ability is important. But IIRC, Sweden is a semi-socialist country. High in bureaucracy and the taxes are insane, but they DO pay for lots of social programs, like education and apparently marriage.

Good luck and congrats

motoaavtar 10-12-2010 11:44 AM

In Sweden wedding doesnt cost any money. its up to u if u wanna spend alot to make big wedding or not. most money goes now to have dubbel rents becouse of law of it takes 3 months to get rid the apartment u rent.

xYinniex 10-13-2010 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by motoaavtar (Post 832626)
In Sweden wedding doesnt cost any money. its up to u if u wanna spend alot to make big wedding or not. most money goes now to have dubbel rents becouse of law of it takes 3 months to get rid the apartment u rent.

yes, thats all well and good but is that just the ceremony though?
Money has to go out somewhere, like the wedding dress, the grooms clothes, catering, flowers, the cake. They all cost money.

RobinMask 10-13-2010 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by xYinniex (Post 832725)
yes, thats all well and good but is that just the ceremony though?
Money has to go out somewhere, like the wedding dress, the grooms clothes, catering, flowers, the cake. They all cost money.

They do, but I think what the person is saying is that 'weddings' cost money, but 'marraiges' don't. What I mean is that - in the UK for example - it's about a hundred pounds to marry, you simply turn up with witnesses and that's it, you're married. It only costs money if you have the dress, the guests, the cake etc. like you named. If this person is simply looking to get married, without the huge ceremony and celebrations, then they probably could do it pretty cheap, or for next to nothing :)

It'll probably be better that way too. If cost of living is as expensive in Sweden as the posters have indicated, then it makes sense to save money and use it for an apartment or education etc., rather than on one day that means little in the scheme of things, not when the goal is to simply unite with the person you wish to spend your life with.

Cilla 10-13-2010 01:50 PM

I think if you're really committed to him then get married. It's your life and only you can lead it.

I have a similar story to you albeit with a bit more distance. I met my boyfriend online and after years of planning moved from Australia to England to be with him. We aren't getting married for at least another two years though. I'd rather settle down, live with him and get things sorted before that.

But congratulations :)

Ito 11-12-2010 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by RobinMask (Post 832730)
They do, but I think what the person is saying is that 'weddings' cost money, but 'marraiges' don't. What I mean is that - in the UK for example - it's about a hundred pounds to marry, you simply turn up with witnesses and that's it, you're married. It only costs money if you have the dress, the guests, the cake etc. like you named. If this person is simply looking to get married, without the huge ceremony and celebrations, then they probably could do it pretty cheap, or for next to nothing :)

It'll probably be better that way too. If cost of living is as expensive in Sweden as the posters have indicated, then it makes sense to save money and use it for an apartment or education etc., rather than on one day that means little in the scheme of things, not when the goal is to simply unite with the person you wish to spend your life with.

hi. yeah we gonna make it real small for only 2 of us and few of his friends in this small town. and just do court marriage. Dress i fixed from my sister is a nice white dress with red flowers and shoes i had from my sisters wedding in tunisia this year. you can alwayes make big parties later like in the summer.
And cilla thanks :) . And im happy for u to Cilla just do it as it fits your bouth, moving from australia to uk must be huge thing to. My boyfriend he studies in Sweden so i just moved to his town. thanks to Dayanx and LillyFields <3.
And xYinniex, my boyfriend can stay in sweden during his studies so we arent corrently appling at all for him to get swedish naturnality yet, now we have 3 weeks waiting to know if we can get married but i think things will work out fine. I have thought things through and im really happy.
And the question of education is free in sweden.. even university studies.
Hugs Ito

PockyMePink 11-12-2010 08:12 PM

Exactly how long have you known him? It sounds like most of your relationship was internet based, which isn't the greatest place to start a stable marriage if you haven't spent much time with him offline.

Ito 11-12-2010 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by PockyMePink (Post 837235)
Exactly how long have you known him? It sounds like most of your relationship was internet based, which isn't the greatest place to start a stable marriage if you haven't spent much time with him offline.

i live with him now? and i been with him in belgium for vacation. now we have apartment together.


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