New Year Resolutions Anyone?
 

Do you make resolutions?

do you usually manage to keep them?

I can't say that I do--no will power.

Do the Japanese make New Year resolutions do you know?

One resolution I will keep is to cease making resolutions! One never really keeps up with the "other" kind....

I always keep mine.. And i will make a new one this year..
I promise not to jerk off even once for a whole year :)
Thats a good promise...

No resolutions. I only have one thing I wanna do in 2011, and it's start watching Dexter and Fringe.

Why is it good to stop one's self from masturbating?

to be able to understand between 70% to 90% of Japanese conversation before i go home :)

Well, last year I promised I would get an electric guitar and I succeeded :D

well i think it is good to have some goals :)) spirit to keep things going, but nothing like, i will totally change, learn x languages and pressure myself to death.

my ressolution is to improve my french by reading french literature, start serious with japanese and get myself into university :D that would all be good things :).

I hope i find a path in life to take and go to japan,but i doubt any will happen.

I usually take resolution that I end up forgetting. But for 2011, I want to live. What I mean is that I want to accomplish whatever I wanted to do in the past and couldn't or didn't have time to do because of college and university. First off, I want to try the JLPT N3 in december 2011 (in Canada, we can't try it in July, unfortunately). Then, I want to get my permanent job and maybe try out for my licenses... it's been 5 years now and I'm still with my temp...

I have plenty of goals in life but I don't worry about something like the New Year to think about them or decide to put them in place. It's just another date to me with little importance.

To learn how to play violin! Improve my flute playing. And get into the College or University I apply for!

Write and draw better,attend college classes as my sophmore year ends =D and find my DS.

^_^! GL with that :D! I found my DS, but I can't find any of my games D;!

I've got my games I need the console! Thank you!

Best of luck finding yours

I think I for one make too many goals...

This year I want to Finish my recording studio, finish my home studio, and finish my live/live recording rig. On top of that I also want to do some filming. I want to create a really fluid workflow-- that's what's most important to me this next year. However, I also want to be able to sight read lead lines of music.

Last year my goal was to finish my recording studio... well, I almost did it, but oh well.

As far as "New Year Resolutions" in Japan go, they are called "Hofu" or "Shin-nen no Hofu" (新年の抱負).

I am going to continue my resolution from last year of quitting soda and getting into shape. So far I have lost 55 lbs. My new resolution is to take my year and continue it to no more soda ever. I also want to make the wind symphony at my university.

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo:eek:

I cannot image a life without coke.

I'm not gonna cheat on my gf.

That shouldn't be a resolution, that should be a gimme!

it's been getting more and more difficult, it's wearing away at me...

this place can be heaven for a decent looking foreigner, but it can also be hell to a foreigner with a decent mind...

mm wonder what that means?

Means if you're free to fuck whoever you want then it's freaking paradise, but if you have a girlfriend and have to pass on other hot chicks then you're screwed.

Bingo, and their not just hot, they all have awesome personalities with an open mind and .... they're good women, all of them.

Womanizer much...? :rolleyes:

Anyway, that's just plain wrong. Who wants to be with a guy who's trying hard to not cheat on you? I mean, I want a guy who doesn't have to stop himself from cheating cause, if we're ok, he shouldn't even have the urge to do so. I'd dump the guy straight away if being with me meant he's making an effort to not be fucking anyone else. Your resolution should be to stop wanting to screw other women. Work hard on that.

Ah yes,bI must improve math as well...

This merits clarification, and a proper rebuttal ^^b

First of all, you're right, being with someone who is making an effort to not cheat sucks either way.
Secondly, your desire for a partner who is unphased by his or her sexual attraction to others because you're so awesome is perfectly right, and so unrealistic.
The most attractive thing about a new woman (or man) is in fact that she is new, at first with my girlfriend there was no issue.
What husband in the world doesn't check out and dream about younger girls? none, you're in a dreamland or believing the lies if you think otherwise...

If being a womanizer means I can appreciate the beauty and intelligence of women without thinking any less of them than I do myself, then so be it. I don't think less of a woman who is interested in many men because they all have different unique qualities that she enjoys.
The problem starts when enjoying them leads to multiple sexual relationships, then it's not so much a womanizer as a promiscuous man-whore, which is what I'm wanting to avoid.

Every long-term relationship in the world lacks the thrill and heartthrob of a new relationship, and it's okay to miss that.

I don't hide any of this from my gf, she knows and understands, it's not like I love her any less. She's understanding, and feels the same way towards men, but we both know that what we have is better than the thrill of a fling.

anyways, throw in the problem of having women who I consider out of my league making themselves available to me, and it makes it more irritating

none of this is my business of course.. I feel that of course its okay to still have friends of the opposite sex-- crikey it would be crazy having to avoid them and just because I am married does not mean that I am blind to others.

No I don't or didn't want sex with them-- I am not a Man-- but if one loves one partner-- then one would normally not be tempted to stray elsewhere.

Much must depend on how serious a relationship is surely.

Loyalty should be mutual in a steady relationship.

not meaning that you should become a hermit or blind or deaf towards the opposite sex.



If a relationship is mutually EASY with NO ties or commitments on either side then I guess its up to the individual.

It can take along time to really get to know each other.

I have many friends of both sexes thank goodness.


I admire many of them.


Somewhere earlier on here--James mentioned that his Girl friend's mother said she would kill herself if her husband went with a hostess.

maybe this should be on the relationships thread.


I do believe that in a real and genuine relationship-- Loyalty should be a Given.

but no need to shut out all other friendships.

well one of my main resolutions is to read ALL of the books I have on or about Japan--History culture craft etc plus the DVD's I have about various aspects of Japan plus get stuck in to studying and learn how to write on this forum in NIHONGO.

also be there to support myJapanese friend the whole time that she needs me-- as it is because of my love for HER-- that set off the whole curiosity about Japan and the Japanese people.

Hahah sucks to be ya :mtongue:

I agree with all that and I know it's kinda hard to stick with the one you've got and not feel tempted by other members of the opposite sex. Been there myself. However, the fact that it happens to everyone doesn't make it right. I believe in the kind of love that makes you not want to be with anyone else cause you believe no one out there can possibly be a better catch. If you're not sure about wanting to be with someone then geez!, break it off, be single for a while, realize what you want and if you feel the need to get back to that one person you left then go back and see if you can work things out and get back together. But wishing you were single so that you could stand a chance with other people? wrong wrong worng.

(ps. know what? I am the same as you, so it's okay if you choose not to take my advice on this LOL)

I love your secret comments :)
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Yeah, I don't wish I was single, I just wish the women in my life would be cool with just being friends without flirting with me all the time and sending all these signals, some not so discreet.

(ps. I had a feeling you were! How many guys are you fending off??)

Do you know for sure they are flirting with you? Cause, maybe it's all in your head.

Or maybe you're too hot for them to not make it obvious they'd like to screw you, and so that's what it's all about: sex; and they're not really wanting anything from you but some steamy time with a hot new man.
(None. Just keeping the thrill going but, unlike you, I don't have to make it a New Year's resolution to not find my legs wrapped around a guy who isn't my boyfriend, cause I know it will not happen unless I fully intend for it to happen).

i hope i find some peace and quiet finally

For about the past 17 years I have had the same New Year's resolution.

"I resolve not to bother with New Year's Resolutions, other than this." :cool:

Yeah, it's flirting. Uncharacteristically blatant too when it comes to the Japanese. Sometimes to the point where I feel like I gotta just walk away otherwise I'll be forced into a situation that would be grounds enough for my girlfriend to want to leave me.
I don't wanna seem like I'm some sort of celebrity icon here, but honestly a decent looking foreigner will have a hard time shaking off the trash here.
These days I've found some more respectable circles of less slutty people to hang out with, but it may just be because they're new that they don't feel comfortable enough to do what the last bunch has done. ><

Where are the other foreign guys here who've been in Japan a while? And experienced what I mean? I know I'm not the only one ...
The more Japanese I learn the more intense it gets too.

It's getting hard to find a good group of friends to hang out with in which I don't make all the guys jealous and some of the girls distracted.
I swear I'm not conceited ... just saying it how it is, honestly I'm an "average" at best back home.
I guess the resolution is to find places where I can hang out where I don't get pounced on. Sometimes it happens while my girlfriend is right beside me, which infuriates her ... even though I don't react to it -_-

Heeey New Year's still two days away and my resolution is half way complete already. I'm almost done with season 2 of Dexter. Go me! :cool:

LOL Poor girlfriend of yours. I guess you're fine as long as you don't give her actual reasons to be jealous. Good luck with that. :)

Oh I feel so bad for you, women are the greatest pleasure anyone can have. Including women.
(Am I back to being a womanizer now?)

There is no joy without the chance of pain.

HI James, I guess its rather like back in WW2 when the americans came to UK-- and the local females fell madly in love with them. they handed out bubble gum and nylon stockings-- and many girls HA HA ended up with an extra mouth to feed.


Maybe its like that in OKINAWA or where else the American service men are. there is an attraction to someone different really.


Maybe the girls look at you as a way of escaping their own world.

maybe you should have a sign on your T shirt--Not available!


Or something that might put them off- sure u can think of something LOL.

bingo

I used to have a white shirt that I wrote "おれはボケがいじん" on in big black marker, I didn't know any kanji at the time so it looked just like that...

It didn't help, or, it did help, depending on how you look at it, at the time I was single, so it helped ><