At the risk of an off-topic . . . what is the definition of pansexual, anyway? It just seems exactly the same as 'bisexual' to me. Is there a difference at all? What is it that makes 'pansexual' different? :confused:

Pan-sexual will love anyone whether they be boy , girl, transgender or a hemaphrodite

That makes sense. Fair enough :)

On-topic though, another poster asked how you can know whether another person is lying or not. I will always think that meeting in real life is best, but until then have you tried webcam? Most messenger services - most famously Skype - enable you to have video calls with the other person, and seeing them and speaking to them 'in person' might help ease any pains that come from distance. It would also enable you to get to know them better, because then you have other things to go on, such as body language and tone of voice.

@RobinMask That's a valid point.

My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 6 months now, I live in Michigan and he is in Cali, a solid 2000+ miles between us. Makes things very rough, he flew out to see me for a few days after a few weeks of flirting and we got along great, he flew me out to Cali for 10 days on Feb 19th, I got back last Wed and I can honestly say it was the best 10 days of my life, being with him makes me so happy, and he makes me realize how much of a good person I can be, I love him with all my heart :)

But.

I had also been friends with him for about a year before the flirting started, so I knew him for quite a while before meeting him, the best advice I can give you is to just wait it out, I know how rough it is, really. But in the end it's really worth it. Good luck :D

i used to have many pen friends when i was young. mostly in the forces.


nobody can know a person unless they meet them or even live with them for a while.

sometimes actual meeting with them can be disastrous.

better to to have real friends.

it is natural to want to love someone and for them to love you.

i put my love on my dogs------safer that way, loving someone hopelessly can be torture.

There's realist and then just plain cynical :/

i've been around a long time------------don't lose your heart to a total stranger.

Truly. It's bad enough losing to someone irl

To me, it is real. The only thing is that we can't touch each other. We talk on the phone every night. I feel like I've known this person my entire life, but I actually have not. I feel the connection so strongly that I sometimes don't even need to be talking to the person to know what's going on, I just know. The distance sucks, but I think it will make it better when we do meet. The feelings might be even more intense with the physical closeness added in... I can't wait. ^.^