Is Lolita "O.K." For a middle school setting?
 

I've tried once. I didn't get in any real trouble, really, at least not with the teachers.... But It was pretty hard to deal with everyone saying "OH-EMM-GEE, You're liek, so emo!" And all those sort of LOVELY comments. *sigh* So, after failing at Gothic Lolita, and not really wanting to try with Sweet Lolita... I figured I'd ask you guys. Do you think Lolita (Specifically Gothic, but any type is fine) is O.K. for a Middle School Setting?

To be honest, the Emo comment also wasn't the only... rude comment. There where many more, calling me a whore, etc. Yeah. That's another reason I wanted to ask you guys.... What do you think? Should I ignore them and try again? Or should I drop it at this? And over all, Is Lolita even appropriate in a 7th grade setting?

It's tough, but wait until you get to at least high school before dressing in unusual fashions. A lot of middle school kids these days have no respect. I've been called names by kids 5 and 6 years younger than me...wtf? Something is terribly wrong with that age group at this moment, so hold off for now, at least at school.

No...bad idea.

Grow up some more first.Too young for that. Hate to say that but doing that at such a young age.... I think it will only make you a target from older guys who are big time perverts and create unwanted attention from older guys.

Ya, Agree. They Are Simply Not Ready. Is Like Giving a Car To a Little Kid; Not Ready For Such Things. Their Minds Are Simply Incapable Taking In New Ideas or Whatnot. So I guess 7th Grade Is Not a Good Idea Practicing Lolita BUT Just To Make This Clear, There Will Always Be Some That Simply Judge and Attempt To Degrade You. It Happens, Maybe In My Own Opinion 'Less' Would Do So. Hope That Helps.

unfortunately... i have to agree w/ all the other posters...

just keep in mind that it's not because 'you' fail
it's because everyone else fails >.>''

and i mean that in all seriousness

the typical middle schooler just isn't mature enough to know how to cope with things outside their 'comfort zone'

but, there is also the chance that you might find a fellow loli lover in your school and make a great friend....
but that's just a small chance x]

oh and point of post xD

don't give up on lolita
just lay low for a bit >.>''

Your heart is in the right place, but the setting is not. If I were you I would practice sewing, learning lace and other fabrics and make some things.

Sadly, like everyone said, this isn't going to work in middle school. However, the difference between middle school and high school is GIGANTIC.

be patient and get yourself ready.

^This.

Middle school kids are assholes, you're painting a target on the back of your head, and you could mentally experiment with other fashions whilst waiting to get into high school before donning Lolita attire.

Basically, this is the real world. There will be people who will never tolerate you. So either stop caring, or stop trying. I've been spat on, had bricks thrown at me, my mate got his head smashed through a glass door at school, and it all escalated by someone not liking our clothes. If your prepared to deal with it , by all means, but if you aren't then don't bother. If you can't deal with someone calling you an emo then you won't be able to deal with it further down the line.

i agree with the posts about middle schoolers being rude about ppl's fashion choices. srsly. i'm in middle school >.<

high school is WAY more accepting, since my sister's going there and she wears CAT EARS and CAT TAILS whenever she wants, which i WANTED to do, but i could tell the day i joined middle school that it was a BAD idea for a pixie to do so >.<

i'd wait till u were in ur last year tho, cuz whenever the eight graders at my school do any crazy outfits, nobody is mean (accept for the ppl of the opposite gender just being goofballs lol)

or just u kno, wear it and tell them that they're just too closed-minded to comprehend the beauty of lolita :) EDIT: tho, that also might be bad to say that to them...

Just think yourself lucky you dont live in England, once you even step out of line of "the norm" everyone stares at you and starts slinging abuse. I've even seen parents say to their 3 year old kids "call that girl an emo"

Fuggin' hell!

Remind me to never piss people in England off.

Edit: Fixed. Thanks to Shadow for fixing my dumbtardedness.

Not europe, England mate.

well people are always going to talk shit. ALWAYS
Middle school is probably the worst, high school is not necessarily easier depending on what kind of people are in your high school. but its better to wait till then. but yeah just make sure you feel confident with it, you could always just stick to wearing it to the mall and whatnot and not at school and just go with some accessories (hair bows and the like)

Before I had my kid my hair was always dyed funky colors (my job didn't care) dressed kinda crazy at work and pretty crazy after
now since i've had my kid i dress more normal but i have my days and imagine the looks i get pushing a stroller dressed in all black and "strange" eye makeup? But I don't care it's just something to deal with. Usually if i'm courteous and nice people will be ok and eventually warm up. Although even my parents say "your poor child is going to be twisted"
but criticism will come regardless just gotta get tough skin

r u serius what a horrible mother!!!
but hey kid either way i dont think it really matters if u dress that way in middle school because for me even in high school not everyone will accept the way u dress cause everyone will say junk about how u dress. it happens everywhere. as long as u r confident in it then i think u will be fine.

my thought is, school is a place for learning. not for drawing attention to yourself.

kids are very cruel ... i was an outcast in all of my schooling ... now i have a kid that is 15 .. and he is the 'typical' kid that picks on everyone else .. we clash about it pretty much every night.

i would reccomend just making your clothing and such, and wearing them when you go out ... but not for school ...

uniforms are a good thing (to a point)

QFT. Remember. <- link to victim of subculture intolerance

They are quite intolerant of subcultures XD I think.

Oh my god. You couldn't pay me enough to wear lolita in the UK.

Middleschool plain out sucks. I'd wear Lolita outside of school if you're having issues and I'd wait for highschool. :)

Those people are rude to make fun of you so much.

Honestly college is the best place to speak out and express yourself. I wouldn't have worn lolita in my old high school because those kids were f***ing racist and prejudiced like no other. And long hair on guys seemed to be a common target, which is complete and utter bulls**t. A lot of blue collar kids were the problem. One of them even had the courage to call me a (pardon me) "gook" to my face multiple times. He was in my class for christ's sake! Didn't he realize that I could have called all my Asian buddies to come and kung fu his ass? (Gahahaha, kidding ;] ) What a baddie. In college, people just stare a bit, then go on with their lives because they're more educated and open-minded.

lol I don't need to pay you. :D Your life is much more valuable.

I just call them conformists. :rolleyes:

Have you seen my DP? i aint no conformist. I am who i am. I get sh*t for it, but screw what everyone else thinks.

Not talking about you. I'm talking about those middle/high school people that lol at what you wear.

Yeah. To blazes with their rules.

>.< wouldn't believe how many of THOSE ppl seem to be at my school
seems like everytime i wore something even the SLIGHTEST bit different, i would get weird looks or pointing and rude comments
luckily everybody has gotten used to my weirdness by now >w<
nowadays, no1 gives a f*** about wut i wear XD i can wear almost anything (notice the ALMOST and not EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING? XD) without getting strange looks and such :)

Hmmm....
Well, I'm my last year in middle school.
Just one more term, but still.
Though, my mind is so not middle school-y. I lost my innocence AGES ago. Screw pink.
Except if it's with black. :P
Hnn, they even made an ad about me inte paper once, about me having the brain of a 16-year-old. It's sort of annoying how people talk to me like if I'm retarded because I'm so young.
Back to your problem;
It all depends on how your school is.
This year, I've started to wear goth-ish clothes to school, and, well...
The girls stare at me(and my UBER COOL SPIKY HAIR) and whisper, the guys throw in mean comments in the beginning.
My friends were all "WHOA, Vanessa, what are you WEARING!?"
But I told them that it's my choice, and if they're not comfortable with the way I dress, screw them.
Well, I gave my classmates some time, and well, no more mean comments or stares.
They sort of got used to how I dress.
So if you're planning on bringing Lolita to your school (GO YOU!), take it slow, and start clothes with a little darker colours. I had to do that... But it'll be fine in the end if tackled in the right way. ^^
I'm happy now, and even some of my friends were gothic lolita clothes, and we never get mean comments anymore. If there's a new kid, sure they keep distance at first, but if given time, they'll realise we are the way we are.


And now:
GOOD LUCK WITH BRINGING LOLITA TO YOUR SCHOOL, HUN. 8D:rheart:

I actually did cry when I saw that on the news. I think of all the abuse I've got over the years. I've been in situations where I could have been her. It just makes me sick and I feel awful for all her friends and family.

you can do what you want, wear what you want, But if it compromises your safety, for gods sakes, don't do it. But it will rarely lead up to that, so just wear what you want.

Funniest thing is, the origional poster said shes not an emo, yet shes on JF sulking.. hmm..

I've nearly ended up like Sophie too.. I think everyone who dares step out of line has to face this at some point in their life here.. sucks..

i agree with most of the posters here, expressing yourself freely would be accepted if we lived in an ideal world, but sadly it isn't. I'll give an simple example from my own life.. during middle school i had a real hard time trying to find my own style and was constantly bugged about it, people have a hard time to accept anything that is different for the simple reason that they are scared for the thing they do not know, but i admire people who endure it and are true to themselves, like my own sister.

Basically the best you could express yourself the best if you wear clothes you feel good in...you don't even need to keep to one style like me XD and be proud of who you are ...

hope this helps ...

Tips from Belgium XD

Lolita is part of a culture that not many will understand unless they know something about it. Obviously the people at your school don't and that makes it hard for them to understand.
I'd say dressing up as a Lolita belongs in the category of a hobby or what one does during free time. Not as a school uniform.

Truth is harsher than fiction, it's a sad world.

I would have to say i agree.people just dont like things that are different, especially young people. they cant really understand how to deal with what their facing and treat it negatively, i know, i was like that when i was younger. but its all in how you deal with it. if you want to dress goth loli then do it, but know what your going to face if you do. but if you are try to wait till you grow a little and so does everyone else. I Tattooed my face. and people looked at me weird sometimes and even had one person ( who is my bros friends sister) called me crazy. but i really dont mind. but i noticed that some people were cool with it and after a while people stopped caring about the tattoos.

I never expected my one question to be so popular.... Anyway, Yeah, I guess I'll just wait until next year, then.... *sigh* God damn all these bitches in middle school, anyway. >.> Where do they get off telling anyone what to do!?

But now that I thin k about it.... If I stuck with it long enough, instead of giving up on day 2 like I did, they would have eventually just let it be.... For instance, I wear a bell around my neck everyday. And even though people made fun of me, I didn't stop wearing it... No one really bothers asking anymore.

As long as it doesn't compromise your safety and you can take the negative commentary for a while, you can wear what you like.

wear what you wanna wear

If people get used to it, they won't question such anymore. (It becomes ordinary.)

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I agree with Arikado. I will be in Gr. 9 next year, and generally, nobody in middle school is mature or open-minded enough to accept style from diferent cultures, or whatever. I'm actually bothered alot by others simply because I don't wear brand name clothes like Abercrombie & Fitch, Guess, American Eagle, stuff like that. I just don't like to. So in high school, definitely dress how you want, but middle school people just DON'T GET IT.

Lolita or middle school is fine with me. I did it for holloween because It was just for fun but yea its aawesome~!

Go for it.
I'm a freshman in highschool, but its still in a junior high building.
In the words of Metamorphose designer "Go! Go! Lolita-chan!"
I know it's cheesy, but I live by those words everyday.
And you're no whore.
You're wearing a modest dress that was influenced by the Rococo era.
The whores are the girls in the too-tight shirts and jeans with thongs sticking out and breasts about to pop. And most of those girls have too much makeup on too.
You're beautiful, they're just too immature to realize it.

Psh. I think american eagle is awesome
But im british

I'll state it again, if you're not comfortable with the weird looks and if they are violent about it, don't do it. Your safety is more important than how you look.