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My dad used to tell me

"son.. if it moves shag it !
and if it doesnt, then shag it till it does"

personally i think it is great advice and contains the wisdom to deal with most of lifes problems including that of this thread !

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Originally Posted by ThirdSight (Post 607368)

Everyone stay calm, this is a hijacking.

My question? Where should I draw the line? Is it a friendship, something else? I'm at a loss, and I'm also in a position where I can't act too recklessly. We're co-workers, meaning that if I do something she considers out of context (a good night kiss let's say here), it could get gnarly at work.

Anyone have thoughts about this?

hmmm

dipping the pen in the company ink eh?
this is something full of complictations....which you can probably work out for yourself...usually....you need to be descreet...but make sure you dont do that by acting like a prick towards the girl..
but its easily possible.....ive been with several girls at the same company....

and keeping things secret can add a bit of excitement...secret notes etc :P

....just be carefull....

regarding your question....your going on DATES....so your more than friends....all you need to do is kiss her.....

and whats RULE number 1 of kissing?

"you NEVER ask for a kiss.....you just take it"

(that bureda by the way is why your advice is wank...pppft lovce docta my ass)

it sounds like your shaky about this.....
try this one....
walking with her.....hold her hand....keep walking....look into her eyes...briefly...keep walking holding her hand...stop...turn to face her.....she will turn to face you....stop the fuck talking....just look at her lips....she will get the drift....and now make your move!

but do it soon.

happy hunting

So basically i'm FUCKED.

Thanks for the advices...there were some I have forgotten along the years...sounds funny but yeah...XD

sometimes I wish it was a one night stand and sometimes I wish it was a bigger thing...eh.

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Originally Posted by pumpum (Post 607388)

And now I know why you turned out the way you did...

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Originally Posted by clairebear (Post 607698)

And now I know why you turned out the way you did...

My thought exactly Claire :p

we should differentiate between love and friendship because some one well gets hurt at the end , and I think we already have a difficult life so why we complicated more.........ARE YOU WITH ME? "I'm waiteing for your opinion" :rheart:

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Originally Posted by clairebear (Post 607698)

And now I know why you turned out the way you did...

LMAO ! it was a joke :cool:

get off your high horse !

My dad would never say such a thing - actually it was my MOM !

Love is friendship set on fire. Just let it flow, follow where it may takes you. there's gotta be a way out.

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Originally Posted by Bureda (Post 607049)

The most neutral approach to this issue would be to talk to your counterpart.
Tell them straight: "Look, I got me these emotions lately, I felt like I should know and see how you feel/think. You do not have to return them, but it would be nice if you could evaluate them for me"

It will give you a peace of mind and not ruin the friendship. It might also give you access to the Amazon forest down thurrr.

That's surprisingly good advice coming from you. :mtongue:

I second that

Well my tactic is the following:
If I wanna know something (X) I joke about that, like... she does/likes Y. If she says no then I know it's option X. If she agrees than it's Y. And even if she does not answer I just simply look in her eyes and tell her straight like: Nah for real. Do you/Are you.......

Well that's me though.