Would you like to have a japanese boyfriend? Why?
 

When I tell somebody that i want to have a japanese boyfriend they always ask why??

well.. I have meet some japanese man and I like their way of thinking (generally)
every person its unic but japanese culture make them very atractive for me..:rheart:

why would you like a japanese boyfriend?

Ahem, non-japanese aren't?

Oh and japanese culture? So, a japanese born in USA wouldn't appeal to you because he does not have japanese culture?

I Havent found a non-japanese who likes me since i had a japanese boyfriend.. but,... everybody its ok...

and... about the other cuestion>>> yeah.. the culture its very important becouse a person who has born in USA, used to think like USA peopple... but it depends....<<every person its unic>>

I cannot understand what part of Japanese culture would you be looking for in a boyfriend.

im not judging you...but isn't it biased to want a man based on race....you don't want to give a chance to all the other great guys that might not be japanese...u might miss out u know...and how would you like it if you found out someone wanted to go out with you just because of your race??

Here>>> I Havent found a non-japanese who likes me since i had a japanese boyfriend.. but,... everybody its ok... >>>>>> i told you that every body its ok it means every man from everywhere, so yeah i like japanese but i like other race too

Im looking for the way of thinking ( generally ), a culture and experiences gives you a way of thinking.. so...

i would^^
and yeah i kind of do agree with the rest,like if they are not japanese then they are not good enough but at the same time we can't help what our likes are
i mean when we don't like anyone and our heart is open for love we usually look for the ideal in this case"i want a japanese boyfriend cause i find japanese guys hot"...or something like that....but we can't control our feelings so when we fall in love it doesn't matter who we fall in love with japanese or not we can't stop loving the one that now would be our dear one^^

lol but if japanese is what we like then our "dear one" would most likely be japanese
or out of irony he will probably be the opposite^^

love is something we will never really figure out
its like a language of feelings that can only speak through our actions

....overall its hard finding a boyfriend
T.Tive been single for too long
XD lol

The thinking not always depends on culture of the country. Distinction in culture, mentality, image of life, habits, and etc., very serious handicap. But there is nothing impossible :)
- But is necessary to be able to keep the love. And it not a simple task - fragile feeling...

i agree 100% we must always have love!

i can't imagine anyone living without someone to love....someone to care about that will give sense to ones life

It is necessary to take into account, that the reciprocity is necessary also (theme BF, GF) care of what to whom your care is not necessary......... Problem.
At the inhabitants of Japan not simple character of mutual relation. Though there are countries close on character.

I agree with seishin... I like your way of thinking, would you like to be my friend?

Love its Life... without love we cant live..

What about a Japanese man's "way of thinking" makes him attractive?

I want a Japanese Boyfriend!:rheart:
I like Japanese Men becouse they have great personality somtimes (a lot of the time)...and there cute:rheart:
I have 1 of Aisan Friend (a guy) And He's nice...

si , me gustaria tener una novia japonesa , me encantaria :rheart:

y por que ? primeramente son mujeres muy abiertas a la moda y a los cambios en la vida , son ecepcionalmente inteligentes y educadas y sobre todo cuando estan con un hombre son muy respetuosas , ademas para mi son las mujeres mas hermosas , lindas y bellas del mundo , ese es mi punto de vista y respetando a todas las mujeres bellas de este planeta .:vsign:

no... they're not that sweet...

Japanese men are human beings, just like everyone else. They`re not all wonderful people, they`re not all cute and sweet, etc...
There are just as many wonderful sweet and cute men outside of Japan.

Basing a relationship entirely on race is something I hate with a passion. Assuming that someone will fit your criteria for a relationship simply because they are of a certain race or nationality is just as bad as assuming someone will be awful because they are some race or nationality. It`s all racism.

Fall in love with an actual PERSON, not some ideal that you try to squeeze them into.

Date for chemistry not attractiveness and I'm not saying looks aren't
important but usually when you have chemistry with someone, you find them attractive as well. Shallow relationships get boring really fast.

well... I dont identify my ideal match by the physic anatomy, but by their way of thinking....

I am just trying to understand the "why" of your thinking. You said you were attracted to Japanese men's way of thinking. I am curious as to why.

I never said that i only like japanese peopple.. i said that i prefer japanese peopple, becouse of they way of thinking... and I know they are all diferent, but there are some, that match with my preferenses... but.. YOU CANT CHOSE IN THE LOVE>>> you cant never know, who you gonna fall in love with.. so... the preferenses for japanese man its like if you prefer a tall guy or a smarth one... it happends to all peopple...

well.. It is dificult to explain...
I think you have meet some japanese guys, but the traditional ones, that who are conservative.. they are shy, serious, its dificult to meet inside their feelings, their real feelings, but they are very sincere, they are correct peopple (THERE ARE ALWAYS EXEPTIONS)
well....
i like all that... its a challenge for me its so interesting, if there is any guy that its like i describe before then he maybe likes to me... not metter where he is from..

Just out of curiosity, how many real life Japanese guys are you basing this on? How many Japanese guys have you personally gotten close enough with to be able to tell their intimate feelings?

I have meet around 15 japanese guys and I have really know the intimate feelings of two... (thats the hardest part)

By "intimate" - I don`t mean relationship level intimacy, I mean on the level where you actually know them as a person and not just superficially.

If you mean it in this way, you are basically basing your opinion of the males in an entire nation on two people.

I agree that in meeting guys in passing, they`re going to be nice and polite - and yes that does have roots in Japanese culture. But that has very very little to do with their actual personality.

Japanese are no different than us.

lol I wonder if japanese girls like foreigners more as well

In the normal population? Probably about as much as the other way around... Which unless you`re obsessed with another country/culture - is pretty rare.

In most cases I agree with you... but I wouldn't call it racism for wanting someone from a certain nationality. Take me for example, I am Berber. There aren't that many of us in the world and we have a pretty unique culture. Therefore, when it comes to marraige, I'd want to meet someone from my culture, and my culture is only truely alive in Algeria. This however doesn't mean that I will break up a loving relationship just because the girl I've fallen in love with isn't from Algeria.

There are many cultures for example that only allow marraige within the same culture. Of the top of my head, in Lebanon (I forget the name of the group). I have a very close Lebanese friend who is only allowed to marry a woman from his culture otherwise he will bring great shame to his family. It might sound very silly and archaic to a westerner, but these kind of values are still alive in many parts of the world!

So, it's pretty complicated. I don't think that someones cluture being of great importance neccesarily implies racism. However, I do agree that Love is the most important part. And not any kind of love either!

It is a different story completely when it comes to your own family background and cultural issues. Wanting a relationship with someone from the same background as your own isn`t specifically because of race or nationality. It`s more an issue of background and similarity and a desire to preserve heritage. There is also the possibility that someone sharing the same background will be more accepted by family, and will understand you and your family better.

If you were some other culture, and simply thought that Berber girls were hot/cool/etc, looking little at them as individuals - it would be a type of racism.

A Japanese girl wanting to have a Japanese boyfriend is a whole world different than a (insert random nationality) girl wanting a Japanese boyfriend because she thinks they are "cool".

No disagreement there. I just wanted to point out that wanting someone from a certain Country isn't necessarily racism.:)

Because are mistaken and forget that general culture of the people and culture of each separate representative - not necessarily should coincide.
+ The love (personal attitudes) is not subject to their desires and promptings.

Короче: The reason of desire is not the knowledge are true. The general representation about Japan uncoincides with the truth.

Individuality. Individuality. Individuality. Individuality.
Individuality - is мain in the attitudes.

it's not logical to want to have a lover from a certain country . if it's love, you just simply don't care about nationality
:)

Um...my boyfriend is Japanese. (Met him originally on this site too, a long while ago)

But that's not why I chose him...

No matter the culture, Japanese men are like any other group of men= all different. :/

To want one just because of their country is...just...not right, even IF you admire the culture and such. What if you met a nice Swede or such?

People accuse me of only wanting to date asians, because my ex was also Japanese, but it's not like that at all. Sure, I'm white, and I tease saying I'll never want to date white guys again, but...really, it's the person.

I date all kinds of women, it all boils down to personality. Though, living in Japan and going to the different bars in Hatchiogi(The irish pubs) and Shibruya (Club Pure = awsome sauce), I've pretty much just seen Japanese women. They are all very nice though the hardest part is usually overcoming the language barrier, but it does make for some comedic conversation. I remember trying to teach this one girl how to say "an easy english word she can use to impress her friends", hippotomonstrosisequippedaliophobia, she gave up and then pretty much proceeded to teach me some Japanese and laugh at how horrible I pronounced it. Some of the issues though when getting to know them is that I've noticed some have been taken aback when they find out I live in Fussa because that instantly tells them I'm Military, and dealing with the ones that think I'm a pilot and instantly fall in love with me when I tell them I fly on planes. One of these days I'll find a cute Japanese bbw with a great personality.

This instantly tells anyone about you, dude you brag your way into these females mind.Do you sincerely think you can find one who is different.I dont think so they say birds of the same kind flock together.

You keep talking like that and you'll only find the same girls who care to listen.

You can really see that? Damn, well, guess I gotta work on that.

Also, anyone can fly on planes if they buy a ticket. Just putting that out there.

i'd date anyone thats super awesome no matter what nationality they are. Why bother going for that one particular race if theres someone that will love you no matter what/who you are in the 1st place?

Yay, thats what I was thinking, the Japanese are hot, but all races are fine to me, wouldnt just go for one. That's kinda lame, and not to mention closed minded. To me atleast.