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Need some advice
i'm A pErsOn whO LOvEs trEAting friEndz As mY fAmiLY,, in fAct i Used tO cAll thEm in sUch wAys LikE,, twin,, kUiA (fiLipinO wOrd fOr OLdEr brOthEr),,AtE (fiLipinO wOrd fOr sister),, EvEn dAddy!! it mAdE mE sAd whEn OnE Of mY kUiA in schOol sAid thAt hE's faLLing fOr mE,, i mAnAgEd tO tELL him thAt wE'rE bEttEr Off As friEndz,, thAt OnE's sEttLed bUt hE tOLd mE hE'd stiLL wAit fOr thE right timE,, AftEr grAduAtion,, 2 mOrE of mY cLAssmAtEs tOLd mE thE sAmE thing,, bUt i stiLL dOn't wAnt tO hAvE thAt kind Of cOmmitmEnt sO i tUrnEd thEm dOwn As wELL,, thEn,, nOw,, thE pErsOn thAt i trEAtEd As mY dAd (bUt At thE sAmE AgE As mE) AskEd if i wOUld givE him thE pErmissiOn tO cOUrt mE.. im not qUitE sUrE bUt i think i LovE him toO,, but im AfrAid Of commitmEnts,, whAt shOULd i dO?? |
first advice is to take of the silly CaPs AftEr eVerY cOuplE Of woRDs.
as for everything else, another member would be more of a help than i would be :) but if you love him, you might want to explore that a little as in start a relationship. |
bUt i think im nOt gOod At hAndLing stUffs likE thAt..:crykitty: |
sorry i forgot to take off the capz! :pinkart: |
you seem like a young person. if you like him you should start like any normal young person that starts relationships. my idea would be to invite him over to the house and study, watch movies at home together. if he shows up regularly when invited he most likely is feels the same way you do. the key is to hang out with him only so it is clear that it is "like a date" but it really isn't said early in the "relationship" so there's little chance of getting embarrassed for you. good luck though
edit: save your hands from hitting the caps and developing arthritis :) you'll thank me when i'm dead and you're 85 years old :) plus it looks better and easier to read |
but we've already graduated from college..:pinkcry: and everytime he'll ask me out just to have fun together,, i never said yes unless we're with our other friends,, am i bad? :pinkbow: |
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Some of use use proper grammar you know. Typing in that manner really irritates me. -___-; |
that's how my classmates look at me as well,, the baby among the class.. that's why of all the people,, i don't know why they've chosen me..:pinkcry: of course i want someone to take care of me,, someone who would always be there to watch over me,, but don't you think i'm just longing for parental attention?? my parents used to be so busy,, maybe that's why i grew up like this,, i grew up loving only my anime collections and my siblings,, now i'm not sure if this love for him is just nothing or what.. one thing's for sure.. i don't want to lose him..:crykitty: |
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sorry im used of hitting the capz.. but i'll try not to anymore.. :pinkcry: :vsign: |
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i'll start thanking you now! :pinkart: |
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Wow, i've actually been through this too. My group of friends lived through the same thing like this, where we all are close like a family and how we call eachother family names. we've been like best friends since elementary. In highschool, 2 of my best friends (guys) only started to like my other best friend (girl). its weird, the topic only came up at junior prom where they just out of no where told me individually that they wanted to ask her out. I was like, i didnt see that coming because ya they're supposed to be "siblings" and just seemed like friends. A week before the junior prom, the girl my friends liked, came up to me and said that she liked me! I was shocked! :eek: probably because she didnt seem like it then me and my 2 best friends got into a fight just because of her. everything changed alot for a while we got into a fist fight afterschool one day, well they threw the punches at eachother, i tried to break it up but got in the middle of it in the end we went to the counselor and sorted it out lol srry im no help, just wanted to share my story |
nice to hear that story!! thanx for sharing!! :pinkart: thankyou sooo much!!!
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aoshisakura as for yours side...maybe you should just tell them..what make them like/love you...what are the stuff you need to commit?
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thankyou mizuki9san!!! thankyou!! :pinkart:
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Aoshisakura,
You should not be fearful of commintments. Even if you fail, having commintments is the only way to discover if you will like them or not. If you think "maybe I love him" it's because already love him. Just go on and discover the amazing world of the grown-ups! |
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only do that if your local culture/religion accepts this kind of attitude, I don't know how this would be viewed in Thailand o.o (yes, I assume my ignorance) |
Do you see this person as a possible soul mate or do you see them as your dad?. You mentioned you treat friends like family, is thier a personal reason why you do this? Check your personal motivations for this relationship to make sure your on the same page he is. Communication is key here, as it is in any relationship.
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ryzorian and ifarroco,, thanks a lot, maybe i should tell him what i feel.. thank you.. i'll try to overcome this non sense fear of commitment.. :pinkart: |
if u love him give him a chance i never loved anyone till this year and now i'm happy and in love
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hinata-chan,, subarashii yo! gambatte in your new love and thanks for the reply.. can you tell us about your love story? |
(Filipino Way)
madali lng yan , hayaan mo na lang siya na kumilos . magiging masaya naman siya sa isip nya eh. pero beware , ang mahabang pagsasama , madaling masira yan . pagdating sa BF/GF relationship , (English Way) Its easy , let him do what he like , but warning , long friendly relationship can't last in terms of BF/GF relationship that's my own way . if i were u . this is just only an advice. but dont take it seriously. |
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