How much do you care about looks?
 

It seems like everyone wants a model, or a person who has the same kind of "look" that they do... but how much of a chance do you give to a guy / girl who might like you, but doesn't look like your dream guy / girl?

I dunno why I'm even posting this... but it seems like us guys who don't look like a jonas brother don't get much love noawadays. :rolleyes:

So, tell me how you feel on the subject. Maybe I'll even post my pic so you can let me know what you think. I def don't look like Hideki-kun either, but I'd love to find myself a Chii! lol

I agree with TLF, there needs to be a balance and thats what matters, as for what I think, I beleive I'm a damn stud. Confidence will get you far my friends.

If I dated a guy that looked like he was from the Jonas Brothers, I'd probably be arrested for statutory rape.

Appearance matters. What can I say? I was raised in a shallow community. At first glance, I judge people based on their looks. Then, when they open their mouth, my attraction might change. If they look good but are an asshole, I won't be attracted anymore. If they look average, even less than average, but are funny and smart, etc., then I'll be attracted.

Lets be real...

You cant sleep with a personality !!

I care about my looks greatly,
in the end its all you have left.

Really Jay?


TLF: I dont try to have a big ego, I just talk, I mean..I might be ocky but Its not the big ass jock kind of cocky.

actually, I think that's backwards, or something.

Unless you have good genes, looks eventually go....

It's the personality you're left with.

Well I mean in the end as if you take away all the material things,
all you have left is your body.

I would say looks are VERY important....because I'm not going to want to meet some ugly girl...it's not that I wouldn't give her a chance it's just......well okay I personally wouldn't give her a chance but that's beside the point..............

Alright I'm starting over.
I think looks are really important, because most of the time it's what drives people to want to meet, and get to know someone, at least in my experience it is.

As for me, well looks are very important to me, but I'm not into the really model type girls. At least, not the model type in America, I haven't seen models anywhere else. But I'm usually really into girls, that most people look at as the 'freaks' and..........okay I'm on an endless trail here, because I have no idea how to explain what I'm talking about. So, I'm just going to quit at the next period.

To be honest i prefer a gal with average looks with out make up or with but not really heavy make up but more about personality.

But have to say i think i prefer the average beauty with out getting dolled up.:vsign:

Thank you, no offense, reading this almost gave me a headache.

i know it's very shallow,yet i've said it before.i'm a sucker for a pretty face.and i am willing to overlook things like if she's acting mean or cracking her gum or something.:mtongue:

Lol why would i wanna talk? thats what the pubs for !:D

btw- dont knock my avvie - thats my ex missus LMAO !! :D :D

Nonsense! You weren't raised in a shallow community. Good looks indicate many things
1. wealth
2. healthy genes
3. bodily health
4. hygiene

These are all positive traits and important for the propagation of the species. People are often ugly because of very subtle cues in a lack of body symmetry. A lack of body symmetry can be evidence of other things such as future spinal deformations, etc. People can also be ugly because they don't take care of themselves, either out of a lack of care or lack of ability due to financial problems.

People are biologically drawn to wealth, hygiene, and health.

But you don't need a perfect 10.

Pumpum It's actually funny and a small world. Your avatar was created on another forum as a joke representation of me, actually. Maybe 3 or 4 years ago. I still have the original image sitting around somewhere on my computer.

ahaha i have to agree,
this really confusing to read ^_^
but im pretty sure i know the type of girls you like. (scene chicks?)

Anyway, hmm I have to be honest... I prefer personality over looks. Well more or less, anyone who smiles at me when i look at them.
I find a smile to be really attractive, and no i don't mean one of those toothpaste commercial smiles where everything looks perfectly artificial.
But if someone takes the time to acknowledge me then of course I'll reciprocate by giving them the time of day.... as long as they're a nice person that is.

I once dated a guy who everyone told me was drop dead gorgeous, and whom I should never give him up, but when it came down to it, we had nothing in common. He was one of those obsessive sporty types and tended to talk about 3 things... rowing, boxing and his ex girlfriend. :S

On top of that, listening to a guy talk about himself and how 'good-looking' he is drove me insane, and i swear going out with him made me even more conscious of my own looks which wasnt such a great thing.
I always worried about how i looked so not to embarrass him, and it became very taxing.
In the end he deffinitely wasn't worth it.

I dont really care about looks just most of the time, although IF they were extremely unattractive, then maybe it would matter. I mean I feel attracted by whats on the inside, so most of the time the outside looks just as beautiful to me.

im ugly soo looks dont mater but its the inside that is pretty not theout side

...Alot I guess. But it's gotta be part of a package.
It's like You can't have Cheesecake without the cheese/base.

Any woman interested in me has to have something that will let her have a chance. I am very particular when it comes to what interests me. I like short, slender/petite women with long dark hair. A small, cute, firm backside would be helpful as I am an admirer of nice small female butts. I like breasts but prefer them smaller then large ones. They also must be non smokers/drug users. You can not help what you like and I would rather stay single then be with someone I am not really interested in.

If her complexion is bright or white, she may be interested in dying her hair into brown or dark brown. That may make her look better.

My dream gf is someone beautiful like Taylor Swift :D

Me <3

No, looks are not everything, but it is important to me to some extent. I mean, everyone has an ideal person they are looking for and that's fine. It's just this society is brainwashed by the media and their over use of the subject that "looks" are a must for everything, which is definitly not true. However, in my opinion I'd rather see myself kissing some one that has a decent looking face and not some scary face I would have nightmares over, it's only human nature to feel that way.

In my opinion, looks are important. Looks will attract me,and then the next step will be personality. If they have a horrible personality, that will turn me off no matter how wonderful they look. So far i been having bad luck finding a girl. I had found girls with great personalities, but not to be mean or anything, they looked horrible. I just decided t be friends with those girls.

What I find attractive in a male (as for their style)... I really like the whole farmer-country look or the metropolitan super rich guy look...

But I'm too young for either type of guy anyway. :mtongue:

I've got it bad... >.>
I have a dad who i constantly argue with because i care about how i look, but he thinks that males aren't supposed to care because its "manly" and sooner or later i think i might just cuss him out one of these days...
...and my mom wants to control my looks so i can look like the perfect poodle for her.
And here's the funniest thing: I'm the one who prefers the normal-modern look (my parents thrived in the punk rock era).

Anyone understand? My morale is so low it's underground around them...

Dude it's your body lol. Wear what you like to wear. Unless something is functional (shirt and tie for work etc) then clothes are about what feels good for you. Some people like wearing a style, I like just wearing normal tee and jeans cause it's easy. Ignore what your parents say and wear your favourite clothes?

If they don't like that then you can't really make them, just don't argue about it.

My wife is not ugly, but she isn't what you'd say "hot" either.

I didn't choose her for her looks. Of course, a white man in Thailand with some money can land a supermodel girlfriend pretty easily, so long as he is only concerned about her looks, and not her personality or job.

In the end, I could never stay with a literally ugly girl. But I could not stay with Koda Kumi if she was a bitch, either.

well believe it or not, their big problems are concerning my hair.. =/
what i wear is more free for me to chose but my hair is their issue

I used to have a specific look that I would go for. The typical romantic fantasy. Long hair, mysterious eyes, thin. I loved the Severus Snape type of person.
In a relationship looks are important. Who ever is beautiful in one persons eyes is ugly in another.
But people shouldn't be shallow and refuse to give someone a chance just because of their looks.

Looks matter for me and what I like are not all necessarily model-like traits that are admired by the mainstream people. I'm sure I've come across several "hot" actresses/models that have done nothing for me (in terms of piquing interest). I really do need someone with looks that I find attractive though.

That's very cruel.

Yeah, I agree have you ever seen and old person who was extremely attractive as they were back when they were younger?

wow...
 

this thread is still here? wow.

Well, I've really no use for it,as I'm pretty much convinced girls are all shallow. If its not looks they care about, then its either money or social status. I guess my problem is solved once I get one of the above. ;\

honestly not all girls are shallow!!, as for me i could not care less about looks and fashions or what ever!!, i mean i have my own style, rareley us make up, i don't follow the "trends" i guess those who likes fashion would get scared at my style:mtongue: though, but i have had shallow girls as classmates earlier, and for some odd reason people seem to refer to me as "cute" and foreign guys they seem to think i'm "hot" or something, when i just try to be myself?

the world is a really strange place to be living in

Despite what you think women aren't attracted to looks or money, it's how you present yourself and more importantly how you make them feel. I knew this fat, old, ugly guy who lived in his parents house because he didn't make enough money at his job. He was dating several women, at one time, all of which were 8's or above on a 1 to 10 scale. He liked strippers since they always had money and paid his way or bought him stuff. After meeting him my whole understanding of women changed.
I saw in another thread you were looking for a girlfriend. I think you just need more confidence and to act less needy or desperate. Try it and see what happens. Good luck.

I think age plays a huge role in how shallow others are.

Personally speaking... when I was younger I only took notice of hot girls.

Now I'm in my late 20's I prefer a pretty woman of course... but personality is much more important.

The age factor aside (Ronin is right), the looks and/or social status might get you noticed, but unless the girl is stupid that is all it will get you.

The more mature their outlook on life, more they will focus on your grooming habits, manners, way of thinking and (most of all) how you treat them.

I recently broke up with someone who was quite attractive, because of his attitude about other people and aggressiveness behind the wheel of a car. It may sound shallow, but if someone treats total strangers with contempt and disregards my own safety why would I want to spend time with them?

I personally go for a 50-50 chance. Most of the good-looking guys here are douchebags trying to get into my pants :|

Seriously, I just really want a guy who's able to put up with me, respect and accept me for who I actually am. Honestly, guys are fucking complicated as shit, and most of them are douchebags :| so there's no real point in just going for looks.

to start with i can't put up with douchbags either.

in a certain extent, tho, i think everyone is sorta worried about looks, either your own looks or someone else's look. I mean, if you pay close attention there's even a pattern on the kind of person that usually attracts you.

i say this, because if i look back @ my ex gf's it's noticeable that all of 'em [which weren't so many] look alike somehow. so i suppose that even unconciously we do care about looks.

however, being strictly attached to that would be acting pretty much as the douchbags we've criticized so theres a lot more to consider in a person rather than looks