just ask her out for coffee or something

Exactly :rolleyes:

Why do you like her even? Because she's Japanese?

I think you need to sit back for a minute and take a deep breath. Moving to Japan for your 'first' love is not always the most thought-through idea.

I cannot tell you if she's shy, but if her responses are directly COLD then she's not interested. You don't automatically become 'cold' and 'careless' because you're shy.

If you confess, you might scare her off. Especially if you're the kind of guy to overexclamate your feelings and kind of get her caught in between them. If you wanna tell her - and if you really like her - then do it in a calm, decent way. No huge-ass love confessions, cause if she don't feel the same, you'll scare her off. Hell if you go all Shakespeare on her, you might scare her off anyway.

It really might depend on her family. I know someone who met a Japanese girl who studied at a Big 10 school and ended up getting married to a American. True the guy was like the son of some architect and had a set Job after school so finance wasn't an issue. I think her parents were all for it because they felt thier daughter would have a better chance to succeed in the states on her own merits, than perhaps she would in Japan.

Course that's second hand info so I could be completely off my rocker here. Not that I'm not normally off my rocker to begin with, but hey.

You might want to check into how her family would respond, it could forstall alot of grief later all the way around.

I think you should just tell her how you feel. If you don't, it will eat you alive. Best of luck!

Plus, many are shy anyway. It's a national trait to be less forthcoming than Westerners. Give her signs and let her read them.

Guessing a girl's feelings is not a good idea.Its best just do what everybody else says just try to find out yourself.But don't just bluntly tell her you like her and see if she is feeling the same.Maybe you could ask her to go out somewhere with some friends(to the movies or something) to find out more about her.But she may not depending if she dosen't really like you or just really shy.Whatever it is just make sure you don't rush her because you'll end up pushing her away.

Even if she's shy, she will say yes, if she likes him. No doubt about it.