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xYinniex 09-12-2011 02:42 PM

Let's be honest here, most of you are saying personality because you don't want to seem like a douchebag.

But, the answer is that you'd probably GO for looks. (don't matter if you chat with them once or date them for a number of years) you would still prefer a girl/guy that looked relatively disease free and reasonably handsome.

I'm shallow. I'd go for looks.

OHayou 09-18-2011 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by xYinniex (Post 879471)
Let's be honest here, most of you are saying personality because you don't want to seem like a douchebag.

But, the answer is that you'd probably GO for looks. (don't matter if you chat with them once or date them for a number of years) you would still prefer a girl/guy that looked relatively disease free and reasonably handsome.

I'm shallow. I'd go for looks.

Everyone goes for looks initially unless a friendship overtime turns into a relationship of some sort.

Caveat: When I say looks it can be that raw lust-inducing physicality of the person or their non-verbals (which 60% of communication is by the way - non-verbal) which attract you to them (confident demeanor, laid back-demeanor, extremely masculine/extremely feminine, etc.)

In the end though, connection is the most important which include both personality and looks and also other things not talked about such as: career or lack of one, morals or lack there of, drug addiction or lack there of, etc.

Lets face it, you can have a great personality and look great but if you do drugs and they don't, are a christian and they're a muslim, live with mom and dad and ride the bus and they have a career and roll in a mercedes, etc -- you're going to have some major obstacles to overcome in making that relationship work because...lack of connection.

Nameless 09-19-2011 06:02 AM

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Originally Posted by xYinniex (Post 879471)
Let's be honest here, most of you are saying personality because you don't want to seem like a douchebag.

But, the answer is that you'd probably GO for looks. (don't matter if you chat with them once or date them for a number of years) you would still prefer a girl/guy that looked relatively disease free and reasonably handsome.

I'm shallow. I'd go for looks.

Y helo thar wingstodiscovery.

I already answered to this same premise.

NanteNa 11-21-2011 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by xYinniex (Post 879471)
Let's be honest here, most of you are saying personality because you don't want to seem like a douchebag.

But, the answer is that you'd probably GO for looks. (don't matter if you chat with them once or date them for a number of years) you would still prefer a girl/guy that looked relatively disease free and reasonably handsome.

I'm shallow. I'd go for looks.

This. I ruv u Yins, and yew know it<3

ImadakeOtosan 11-25-2011 01:16 AM

All. Why settle for less?

aldafariomar 12-09-2011 04:54 PM

Personality is a wise move. Looks is a careless move. Simple as that :)
Personality is a long term. Looks is a short term.

RustyBlackleford 12-09-2011 06:39 PM

Both. If it's just a pure sexual relationship, looks are 95% (personality only matters so they don't try to say it was rape even though it was consensual, they don't take money, don't think it was more than what it was, and know what they're getting into). In a steady relationship, looks are important since there should be some physical attraction, but personality is more important. I don't blame girls for not dating me since I'm short, black, and ugly, just the same way I would never date a big fat girl. Hypothetically speaking though, a woman wouldn't have to be a smoking-hot ten; I just prefer dating decent-looking girls (7's) if I had access to them.

jasminoodle 12-21-2011 08:18 PM

im not gonna lie, its teh looks that first attracts me to someone, but then when i get to know them if tehy are nasty it puts me off them right away!


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