I think you should talk with him and ask him to clear everything that he wants to be with you or that girl. If he loves you than he will choose you otherwise you should leave him and never make any contact with him. You are not silly but the situation makes you confused so think peacefully and get some decision that what to do.

I really think that if he really misses u as he says, he would not want to go out with another girl ( especially the one who has left him before )

:) Dear Nobora,
if u allow me, I dunno why u broke up with each other and that's not important for me to know, BUT he hasn't cheated on u and u haven't cheated on him and would like to have each other back, then go for it. It is very obvious that u both still love each other, and I could see that he told u the truth ( that she ignored him ). I think he's a good guy:) . I would say Go For It :rheart:

Keep in ind that he could just be keeping you as the perpetual back-up plan. He wanted your permission to see the other girl so if things went wrong you'd be there as Plan Two so he wouldn't be alone.

If the same girl or some other girl comes along and takes place Number One again and he still tries to stay on good terms with you than he is just using you in between the girls he really wants to be with. Like a security blanket.

This may make you feel needed but you have to think of what you want in life.
Bad guy of good guy isn't the issue. Do you always want to be in second place? It is not good for your self esteem.

Dear Edelweiss,
I find it difficult to be convinced of what u say, from my point of view: if he wanted to make her a 'Plan B' , then he would simply keep telling her on the phone how much he misses her and stuff only and not mentioning anything about his ex-girl friend (gf), but telling her that his ex-gf wants to go out on a date with him and him asking her for permission and finally confessing that his ex gf ignored him .. i think he's just being honest.:) If he wanted to leave her as 'Plan B', then he would not mention anything about his ex-gf, and even if he mentioned and went out with her, he would have said that he doesn't like her or even that he ignored her.
Best Regards.:)

I am guessing neither of them should be using that word. I don't think that is obvious at all.

Didn't Nobora say that they keep calling each other for 3 days and keep expressing how much they both miss each other?! i thought that meant that they feel sorry for breaking up which means they still love each other.

I have been in two relationships like that already... Both ended with more than one heart broken , so... So I can't really say without knowing either You or the guy :). Its easy to say but, I'm trying never to go back into something that didn't worked before.