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Attitudes toward staying home. - 08-13-2009, 03:13 PM

I've heard recently that many Japanese men, even in the 20-25 age range, still believe the ancient idea that it's a woman's responsibility to take care of the household. :/ If so, I'd have to look for a Japanese man that DOESN'T believe this in order for me to date him.

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I've heard recently that many Japanese men, even in the 20-25 age range, still believe the ancient idea that it's a woman's responsibility to take care of the household. :/ If so, I'd have to look for a Japanese man that DOESN'T believe this in order for me to date him.
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Your house must be a shocking mess!


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Oh, and I thought of something else... I like that the ideas of femininity and masculinity are a little different from the culture I was raised in, so I guess it'd be interesting to date someone there for that reason alone...

... After I find a man that has liberal ideas about the roles of men and women, anyway.


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Oh, and I thought of something else... I like that the ideas of femininity and masculinity are a little different from the culture I was raised in, so I guess it'd be interesting to date someone there for that reason alone...

... After I find a man that has liberal ideas about the roles of men and women, anyway.
... It's hard if your wife doesn't do all the house shit for you, but. I mean, I don't have time to do it all myself. If I didn't have a wife, I'd have my hands tied.

But most women are content with doing that. I dunno what kind of husband is going to enjoy a lazy wife...


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... It's hard if your wife doesn't do all the house shit for you, but. I mean, I don't have time to do it all myself. If I didn't have a wife, I'd have my hands tied.

But most women are content with doing that. I dunno what kind of husband is going to enjoy a lazy wife...
You're a big boy. I'm sure you can handle washing a few dishes yourself.


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You're a big boy. I'm sure you can handle washing a few dishes yourself.
I'd buy disposable.


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08-13-2009, 04:25 PM

My husband is Japanese and believes in the housework being done by the person in the house the most. As he is out there working and earning 90% of the money for the household, it is certainly not him.

If you stay at home and don`t do the housework, that`s just lazy. What kind of wife makes the guy come home and do work again... after a day of work?


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My husband is Japanese and believes in the housework being done by the person in the house the most. As he is out there working and earning 90% of the money for the household, it is certainly not him.

If you stay at home and don`t do the housework, that`s just lazy. What kind of wife makes the guy come home and do work again... after a day of work?
The kind of wife that isn't a servant and also has a job.


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Here we go again off topic.


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The kind of wife that isn't a servant and also has a job.
When you can pull that off with a disabled kid, call me.
But even if that weren`t the case, I certainly don`t think that taking responsibility for living space and spending the time to personally raise a child is being a "servant". But hey, I guess that`s just me.


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