Self Inflicted Pain - your thoughts on it.

[VampireGirl1314]

Originally Posted by YukisUke

how do you spot them?

the way they act.>.>

[OliveJuice]

Well, I think a lot of the self-mutilation stuff is a cry for attention; I don't mean that in a condescending way. They want people to notice how "in pain" they are. A sort of emergency flare for being rescued emotionally. Maybe all they wanted was for someone to acknowledge them, or to initiate an emotional purge because they weren't sure of how to/didn't want to bring up their issues themselves. Of course I'm not saying that this is absolute, there are ALWAYS exceptions to every scenario.

Then, there are always the "hurts so good" people. I think that their brains are wired differently, not necessarily good or bad, just different. I think that that route is more for personal pleasure rather than attention. And as long as they aren't causing any serious harm to themselves or anyone else, how bad they want it to hurt is their business lol.

In regard to the former, I think professional help is a good idea. Not saying they need to be locked away in a psych ward or anything, but it may really help to have someone help them interpret their more negative feelings in a healthy manner. Others may need more intensive medical attention.

I suppose everyone has their quirks and crisis. I guess that each should be addressed accordingly. Just my opinion.

[KikiBunny23]

Originally Posted by iPhantom

It's rather easy to spot posers.

It ain't always easy, and anyone who cuts needs help. Posers or not, they are calling for attention. WHo knows WHY they want attention, but they might be feeling neglected, or some other reason.
Yeah...I should practice what I preach, but I'm trying not to because I don't wanna feel weak, and I've helped a lot of my friends quit as well...you can say I'm the problem-holder. They tell me wht's on their minds, I give them some advice, and go on dealing w/ their pain.
Yea...poser or not, they are still calling attention to themselves for one reason or another. Good or bad? Who knows

[VampireGirl1314]

Originally Posted by KikiBunny23

It ain't always easy, and anyone who cuts needs help. Posers or not, they are calling for attention. WHo knows WHY they want attention, but they might be feeling neglected, or some other reason.
Yeah...I should practice what I preach, but I'm trying not to because I don't wanna feel weak, and I've helped a lot of my friends quit as well...you can say I'm the problem-holder. They tell me wht's on their minds, I give them some advice, and go on dealing w/ their pain.
Yea...poser or not, they are still calling attention to themselves for one reason or another. Good or bad? Who knows

everyone needs love, in their life.
they need someone to feel all right.
but when everyone walks away.
you feel like everything is fading away.
and then comes pain and misery.
and may never go away.


sis your not the only one that feels that way, im feeling kinda bad right now.

and i think its all my ex's fault.T_T

everytime i see him,
he brings me pain with that smile,
the smile that would make me feel sane,
and make everything fade away.
but he just dumped me off on the curb,
and told me that no one would ever want me,
and that he hated me, and never loved me.
but i still love him,
even though the memories havent faded away,
and that terrible ripping pain remains.
and now that i see his smile,
it makes me want to run away.

[iPhantom]

Originally Posted by KikiBunny23

It ain't always easy, and anyone who cuts needs help. Posers or not, they are calling for attention. WHo knows WHY they want attention, but they might be feeling neglected, or some other reason.
Yeah...I should practice what I preach, but I'm trying not to because I don't wanna feel weak, and I've helped a lot of my friends quit as well...you can say I'm the problem-holder. They tell me wht's on their minds, I give them some advice, and go on dealing w/ their pain.
Yea...poser or not, they are still calling attention to themselves for one reason or another. Good or bad? Who knows

Everybody knows what's the reason behind posers... they want to look cool by wearing emo. Posers don't have any pain, they just love to look emo when they aren't, and they have quite a good life. I don't know how you deal with such false people... but making fun of them is a way.

[Pexster]

Exactly.

Emo's now these days are Posers(like you said) or just want to fit in.

But i have nothing against them.

[kinpatsu]

I self-harmed once when I was 15. I remember dressing up in all-black clothes and caking on heavy make-up that same day. Looking back, I think that was one of the lowest (read: most pathetic) points in my life. Not to mention it freaked my parents out and they almost sent me to the psych ward because of it.

Now that I'm older and more mature, I am 100% against self-harming. I realize how foolish and unnecessary it is. And because I am Catholic, I view a person's body as a temple for God's Holy Spirit, and I view things like cutting, intentional scarring and tattoos to be vandalizing that temple.

[Pexster]

Originally Posted by kinpatsu

I self-harmed once when I was 15. I remember dressing up in all-black clothes and caking on heavy make-up that same day. Looking back, I think that was one of the lowest (read: most pathetic) points in my life. Not to mention it freaked my parents out and they almost sent me to the psych ward because of it.

Now that I'm older and more mature, I am 100% against self-harming. I realize how foolish and unnecessary it is. And because I am Catholic, I view a person's body as a temple for God's Holy Spirit, and I view things like cutting, intentional scarring and tattoos to be vandalizing that temple.

Ah, yes. But not all emos dress in black.

But that is good you stopped.

Catholic?

Thats KoOL a true dedication.

[iPhantom]

Originally Posted by kinpatsu

I self-harmed once when I was 15. I remember dressing up in all-black clothes and caking on heavy make-up that same day. Looking back, I think that was one of the lowest (read: most pathetic) points in my life. Not to mention it freaked my parents out and they almost sent me to the psych ward because of it.

Now that I'm older and more mature, I am 100% against self-harming. I realize how foolish and unnecessary it is. And because I am Catholic, I view a person's body as a temple for God's Holy Spirit, and I view things like cutting, intentional scarring and tattoos to be vandalizing that temple.

I'm an atheist and from a logical point of life, cutting yourself is a pathetic attempt to escape from your problems. Everybody has problems, should all the world cut themselves?

Some say 'You don't know how I feel'... nonsense!!! The only people I would not be surprised to have committed suicide is parents who lost a child, or someone losing his/her partner (only when in love and without children). In those circumstances I would probably kill myself too... your life is ruined, forgetting is hard.

So basically, Emo-s reasons to cut themselves are pathetic. Especially today's emos.

[Manami]

I used to inflict pain on myself, I stopped though, I still have to go to a therapist but I found out the inflicting pain on myself was just making things worse.