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02-16-2010, 05:24 AM
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I don't blame the victim for becoming a victim; however, I am inclined to criticize the victim according to their actions while being a victim. I'm assuming you believe in standing up for yourself? That's basically the virtue I've been implying--obviously, with little-to-no success. lol |
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02-16-2010, 05:43 AM
I punch people in the nose and cause them significant damage when they touch me negatively or approach me in a clearly threatening manner. Not something I would do without just cause, and only as a last resort, but clearly...
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02-16-2010, 06:33 PM
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I would caution on taking this approach, and I consider it bad advice: If someone is approaching you in a threatening manner and you take and land the first swing, you can really open yourself up to many problems: a. lawsuit (which may what the threatening individual wants) b. medical bills if you are found guilty of assault, including some very expensive dental. c. you may be unaware of any medical issues the other person may have. Landing a swing in certain parts of the face or head can result in some serious complications that you would be responsible for despite what hear-say is available. Sure the bully initiated it, but you will be left holding the bag if real problems arise, despite on who initiated it. I understand the issue that bully is the one being threatening, but there are rare situations where one should take the first swing. Most bullies will back down if one shows they are ready to defend themselves; that is if they are not surrounded by on-lookers. I would say if one has a continuing bully problem, is to start taking self defense martial arts. The "significant damage" by approaching "in a clearly threatening manner" is a dangerous game. Easier said than done I know if you end up in a fight, especially when the bully may have backup, but if you can defend yourself enough to get away, it has served its purpose, and possibly make you a less likely target in the future. Quote:
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02-17-2010, 01:08 AM
My Health teacher in Seventh grade once saidto let people beat you up, so you are just the completely innocwnt victim of an attack and let the just and money come in.
I have no Friends- The cats have scratched and destroyed all of the DVDs! I always owe someone- In fact I put two os in it! I always ruin my clothes with Bleach!- The show is so dom suspensful I spill my grape soda on them! But . . .I'll live. |
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02-17-2010, 02:07 AM
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Don't put words in my mouth or psychoses in my head. Terrible advice, I think. It sets up a pattern that invites more attacks (bullies look for those that don't fight back). |
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02-17-2010, 06:41 AM
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3 or 4? Can't remember? Seriously, if I did a full break of a nose or was in an altercation like that, I'd remember it and how many. Anyway I was just replying to the fact of the first punch situation and the dangers that lie within your approach. Taking the "first swing" in order to "break a nose" in a "touch me negatively or approach me in a clearly threatening manner" even in a last resort before they may attack isn't wise in any situation unless its *life threatening* - i.e. someone got a serious weapon; in which case even then you don't bring a fist to weapons fight. I think the advice you give in this case is dangerous, ill-advised, and will not lead to a good end. One with a broken nose make seek a uglier revenge in these crazy days. Also for the reasons in my first post. I would just hope this isn't something you teach your students if they came to you with such a problem as you advise here. In general that is what you are doing in this forum. Violence solves nothing in the end. Especially in these bully situations. |
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02-17-2010, 12:42 PM
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Also, I doubt very much you would remember details about fights that occurred decades before. Human memory, especially childhood memory, isn't that good. You're being provocative just to be provocative. Quote:
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Remember, my own authority figures never punished me, or not much, for acting when I did. I believe that speaks volumes for my decisions on when to fight back. I cannot even say it is something I would teach my own kids, since I do not have any. This, however, is a forum. Somewhere I should feel free to give my opinion. I believe you must draw a line in the sand at some point. You are free to have your own opinions, but do not disparage me for mine. You've made a few good arguments, there is no need to sprinkle personal attacks in with those points. It merely weakens your credibility. Quote:
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