break up make up

[WhoIsDaffy]

Originally Posted by RobinMask

treat the girl with respect and give her some space, the other posters made very good points, but not Daffy at all :P

yea cos she is treating her current boyfriend with so much respect by lying to him and/or cheating on him?

do you think her bf knows that her and the OP are talking everyday?

also, where is this talk about "manipulating"?

im simply telling him where not to "f**k up"

(like making any mention of responsibility or boyfriend to a girl who your hoping will have some "on the side" fun with, instead you talk about living in the now/to the max etc.)

and FYI - hes not disrespecting her, he's disrespecting the poor chump that is her boyfriend. (alls fair in love and war)

i never understand this whole
"oh you just want her for sex, thats disrespectfull" stuff.

well i don't want her to do my accounts do i?
(get her home and she says, in husky tones "i want to you to put all of your large ---- receipt for the tax year 2005/6 into a folder for me"

she's hot, i find her sexually atractive, so im going to do something about that. nothing wrong with that, infact thats how you got here.

one day you will learn,
its not about manipulating, its about having a mutual understanding.
one that is initially sparked with a look across a crowded room
-i "respect" your looks
-i "respect" how your looking at me
-i "respect" that your being open to a bit of convo/ your here talking to me
-i "respect" that your open enough and confident enough to flirt with me
etc. etc.

dont twist what i say, because you have not the life experience to put it into context -- virgin :P

[RobinMask]

Originally Posted by WhoIsDaffy

yea cos she is treating her current boyfriend with so much respect by lying to him and/or cheating on him?

do you think her bf knows that her and the OP are talking everyday?

also, where is this talk about "manipulating"?

im simply telling him where not to "f**k up"

(like making any mention of responsibility or boyfriend to a girl who your hoping will have some "on the side" fun with, instead you talk about living in the now/to the max etc.)

and FYI - hes not disrespecting her, he's disrespecting the poor chump that is her boyfriend. (alls fair in love and war)

i never understand this whole
"oh you just want her for sex, thats disrespectfull" stuff.

well i don't want her to do my accounts do i?
(get her home and she says, in husky tones "i want to you to put all of your large ---- receipt for the tax year 2005/6 into a folder for me"

she's hot, i find her sexually atractive, so im going to do something about that. nothing wrong with that, infact thats how you got here.

one day you will learn,
its not about manipulating, its about having a mutual understanding.
one that is initially sparked with a look across a crowded room
-i "respect" your looks
-i "respect" how your looking at me
-i "respect" that your being open to a bit of convo/ your here talking to me
-i "respect" that your open enough and confident enough to flirt with me
etc. etc.

dont twist what i say, because you have not the life experience to put it into context -- virgin :P

Ignoring the less mature points for the ones where you pose good questions. Firstly there is nothing wrong with talking to someone of the opposite sex, the OP made it clear they aren't dating or sleeping together so at the moment they're just friends. I speak to some of my friends daily, it wouldn't mean I'm 'cheating' or whatever just because those friends happen to be of opposite gender. (Edit: In which case it doesn't matter if her bf knows as nothing is going on.)

Secondly, if she does decide she has feelings for the OP how'd you know she won't tell her bf right away, or leave him for the OP? You're judging this girl and you don't even know her, what she's doing or how she feels. There's no reason to assume she's the kind of girl you make her out to be.

Thirdly, fair enough, sex for sex sake isn't a problem, providing both parties understand nothing more is involved, but how you worded your first post to me seemed more like 'lead her on'. I - however - take back my point on that matter and apologise if I misunderstood you. Although frankly you could be more mature.

[ozkai]

Originally Posted by RobinMask

Ignoring the less mature points for the ones where you pose good questions. Firstly there is nothing wrong with talking to someone of the opposite sex, the OP made it clear they aren't dating or sleeping together so at the moment they're just friends. I speak to some of my friends daily, it wouldn't mean I'm 'cheating' or whatever just because those friends happen to be of opposite gender. (Edit: In which case it doesn't matter if her bf knows as nothing is going on.)

Secondly, if she does decide she has feelings for the OP how'd you know she won't tell her bf right away, or leave him for the OP? You're judging this girl and you don't even know her, what she's doing or how she feels. There's no reason to assume she's the kind of girl you make her out to be.

Thirdly, fair enough, sex for sex sake isn't a problem, providing both parties understand nothing more is involved, but how you worded your first post to me seemed more like 'lead her on'. I - however - take back my point on that matter and apologise if I misunderstood you. Although frankly you could be more mature.

Your posts are getting VERY confusing!

[RobinMask]

Originally Posted by ozkai

Your posts are getting VERY confusing!

:S They are? Sorry, I thought I worded myself clearly. I was juggling between an essay, this site and several other things at the time; if I was unclear it was probably as I was distracted.

[Salvanas]

Originally Posted by ozkai

Your posts are getting VERY confusing!

They aren't really Oz.

You seem to say such things to long posts. You stopped with me, don't start with other peoples :P

[IamKira]

I'd have to agree w/ daffy... at least on the aspect that if she ends up cheating on him by going out for a date with you then you gotta start thinking "what is the chance she'd do the same to me".. and that point you should just 'have' her and be done with it

only try to develop a non-sexual as well as sexual relationship if she fully breaks up with the dude for you

[darksyndrem]

Originally Posted by IamKira

I'd have to agree w/ daffy... at least on the aspect that if she ends up cheating on him by going out for a date with you then you gotta start thinking "what is the chance she'd do the same to me".. and that point you should just 'have' her and be done with it

only try to develop a non-sexual as well as sexual relationship if she fully breaks up with the dude for you

Of course you would. It's the thought that saying, "Well, if she's going to cheat on me as well, I might as well f**k her," that's being disrespectful.

[WhoIsDaffy]

Originally Posted by darksyndrem

Of course you would. It's the thought that saying, "Well, if she's going to cheat on me as well, I might as well f**k her," that's being disrespectful.

please can you expand on that.

why is it disrespectfull to want to have sex with a member of the opposite sex but not want a relationship?

is that what your saying?

if not please can you clarify and say why?

[Runba]

meh finish school first. Romance and love is all hormones at the young age

[darksyndrem]

Originally Posted by WhoIsDaffy

please can you expand on that.

why is it disrespectfull to want to have sex with a member of the opposite sex but not want a relationship?

is that what your saying?

if not please can you clarify and say why?

No, that's not what I'm trying to say. The way IamKira puts it, it's more taking advantage of the girl, than just wanting to have sex. Almost a "hit it and quit it" mentality.