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06-17-2010, 05:56 PM
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There's a plethora of stay at home dads, but in most cases both parents are working to support their children and the home required to support their children. Quote:
Honestly, I would consider anyone who consciously makes the thoughts akin to "gee, would I want to marry them" within the first few months of dating delusional, and maybe even crazy. Especially in the context of the first few dates. Quote:
Traditionally speaking a man play the dominant role, and (though I tried to avoid saying it earlier) a woman plays the submissive role. Quote:
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As I mentioned it's incredibly easy and within the realm of reason that most people living in a modern capitalist society are able to achieve financial independence (yes I Count paycheck to paycheck independence). With that being the case it's not a matter of "can't", but whether or not the other is willing to. Personally I believe it's fine for one or the other to offer to pay. I do believe it's fair that the bill is split though, or just separate at first. The date isn't about the food or who pays for it, it's about communication. After a while of dating there may or may not be a mutual understanding about how the bill works, but that is subjective to the personalities of the couple. Again, when I date I'm not even thinking about marriage, or spending my life with the person. I'm thinking whether or not she likes me, but more importantly if I like her enough to have dinner with her again. If marriage is supposed to be an institution bounded together by love, then you cannot just decide like that. You fall for someone over time. Quote:
What I am saying is I am fully aware that you're from a different generation than I am, possibly two generations (sorry, never payed enough attention or care to find your exact age, I just know you're fairly older than I) . You've grown up in a different world than I, therefore; you're emphasis on what's traditional. Tyrien.DeviantArt~ As of 08/11/2008 5:33 PM Eastern Standard time I now officially own: Miyavi, Kyo, Yuusuke, Maya, Gou, Aki, Aoi, Jun, Yusa, Jui, Key, Heechul, Yesung, Riku, Kei, Jyou, Satoshi, Takeru, Sin, Teddyloid, ♀Yooh♂, Reo, Tomoya, Tatsuro, Hitsugi, Kyoharu, Takanori Nishikawa, Jay Chou, Hirokai, Die, Kaoru, Shinya, and Toshiya. |
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06-17-2010, 06:44 PM
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If I were to ask a woman out on a date, and she refused to allow me to pay the bill, I would find it offensive. At the same time if I were a woman and a man asked me out on a date, and then at the end of dinner said "OK, you owe 40 dollars" I would be in shock. This ritual is part of dating and communication. Quote:
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My guess is you are still of "casual dating" age with no thoughts or desires to think about marriage. I can tell you women much younger than me still expect a man to pay for a date when he asks her out. That's a tradition that isn't going to change any time soon. |
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06-17-2010, 07:17 PM
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I spend the majority of my time dealing with real people in the real world, not someone else's fictional creations, and your descriptions seem closer to the your imaginary versions of social standards. Only an open mind and open heart can be filled with life. ********************* Find your voice; silence will not protect you.
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06-17-2010, 11:35 PM
Hahaha! That's ma girl! And just for the above comments I'm taking you for food when I'm back, my treat
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06-23-2010, 01:49 AM
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I certainly have no feelings of having to be the provider simply because I'm male. I could think of nothing better than having a successful, rich wife who could keep me in a life of leisure!! This does contrast quite starkly though to my Japanese friends. There does seem to be much more of an acceptance here by women to fulfill a more traditional role of housewife and stay at home mum than amongst western women I know. |
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06-23-2010, 02:53 AM
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As for the date thing, I'll definitely give him a warning whenever I want to pay. |
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06-23-2010, 03:31 AM
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I am not saying one way is right and one is wrong, but there are different ways of approaching the issue. He'll appreciate that. |
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06-23-2010, 04:03 AM
Yeah everyone is different. Most western women I know just find being housewives and stay at home mums incredibly boring.
Our main reason for day care though is so from an early age our daughter is learning Japanese and making Japanese friends. Being a full blooded round eye she is always going to stand out in this country but if she grows up with other young Japanese kids and speaks the language fluently hopefully she won't be treated too differently. She seems to love it at least. |
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