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09-12-2010, 05:27 PM
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First of all, I live in the US. I can tell you first hand not everyone assimilates here. Maybe you live in southern California, where looking the the same is more important that the rest of the country, but believe, here is Portland, OR it is the opposite, so let's not talk about "America" as if it is one way of thinking. Here hair styles are not all the same, clothing is not all the same. Let's not confuse people. |
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09-13-2010, 04:03 AM
I couldn't agree more. I'm exactly the same person here in Japan as I was back in my home country. I'm not going to change the person I am just so I fit in better. That doesn't mean being direspectful or arrogant. That's not the sort of person I am. But I'm not changing the way I dress or my personality just to be accepted more. Accept me as I am or not at all. Doesn't overly worry me.
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09-13-2010, 06:49 AM
I know all about the seating for the elderly, I take great pains in following signs and apparent norms in other countries. When I sit in the middle section of a subway car, carefully seat myself so as not to touch the people next to me, legs together like a prim girl, set my small handbag on my knees placing my shopping bag on my feet I don't expect the person next to me to look directly at me and make a face like I just sat down like a smelly flatulent slob then tense her body and point her face away from me. Up until that seat cleared she had been sitting quite normally looking straight ahead. I also watch people while looking about and had noticed her nice shoes. Sure it could be a coincidence.
I think it's funny that people don't seem to believe that there are any natives in Tokyo who do not wish to closely encounter foreigners while going about their daily routine. If someone told me they encountered something similar in San Francisco I'd tell them they hit upon a rare instance but I wouldn't tell them it was impossible. People are funny, they have preferences. Who knows why they react the way they do. The girl in the Micky Mouse ears was pointedly sneering, who knows why. The guys on the train were saying we were fat because we eat a lot of hamburgers. Each thing happened on totally separate trips over a five year period. But one odd occurrence or three does not color my view of a whole country. I just shrug it off and go on to the rest of my nice day. I run across waaay more weird and random behavior riding the bus in my own city, my odd run-ins in Tokyo are rather innocent in comparison. After all, I didn't have to ride the subway with a half naked clown making suggestive balloon animals in Tokyo. |
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09-13-2010, 11:43 AM
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I don`t believe it is impossible that this has happened to you and that similar things have happened to other people. The thing is, most of the time it probably doesn`t have anything to do with being a foreigner. Who knows, the lady on the train might just HATE having people anywhere near her and scowl at everyone. But the assumption is made that it is because you aren`t Japanese. For all we know she could just be some weird person randomly doing such things. As for the fat because of hamburgers thing - welcome to the rest of the world. True or not, almost every country thinks that about the US. Unpleasant, but not what I would call "racism against foreigners" in Japan. It`s the almost automatic assumption that foreigners make while in Japan that anything negative they experience is because they`re foreign. Not because there are weird people out there, not that it may just have been random, not that there are crazy people in every city/country... But because they are foreign and therefore it must be racism. This totally ignores the fact that similar stuff happens to Japanese people too. |
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09-13-2010, 11:57 AM
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Pretending to be someone you`re not just to fit in is one thing, being aware of the norms in the country you`re in and not doing things that go totally against them is another. Do you do the exact same things even when it would go against the cultural and social norms of Japan? This is fine - if you`re prepared to be treated as if you`re doing something weird, as it is weird according to Japanese standards. But if you were to just act exactly as you did outside Japan and then expect to be treated as if your behavior was entirely normal... That is a problem. I`m not saying this is what you do, but it`s pretty common. Foreigners come to Japan, act exactly as they did back home, and then get extremely irritated and frustrated by a) the weird habits of Japanese people, and b) being treated as if they`re doing something weird... Without ever realizing that they are the ones doing something odd from the Japanese perspective, and that all the "weird" habits of the Japanese people are normal. |
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09-13-2010, 06:03 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if Portland Oregon was different from the rest of the states. Maybe you guess need some nation wide retail stores? Old Navy anyone? How many Americans here? Do you think Asians in America dress differently than anyone else? Or do you think everyone in America pretty much shops at the same malls and retails stores? I'm not talking individual tastes, I'm talking a noticeable clothing style deference among the different ethnic groups in America so you can tell without seeing face or skin color what race a person is by looking at his clothes. In Little Tokyo I can tell the FOBs from Japan Vs the Nisei living in the states. The Nisei dress like anyone else in the U.S. and usually have a bit of a tan. The FOBs are still wearing the clothing from Japan, are much paler and have Japanese hair cuts. |
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09-13-2010, 06:46 PM
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I didn't say I never got my haircut in Japan or never bought clothes in Japan. (But yes, I kept the same clothes for several years, and still wear some of the clothes I wore in Japan 15 years ago. Can you believe it?) I said I didn't change my style in order to imitate the Japanese people around me. Trust me, the way many Japanese men wear their hair would NOT look good on non-Japanese. I would have stuck out more like a sore thumb if I had tried to imitate the fashion and hairstyles of the males around me. Quote:
When I taught international students in the US everyone used to love seeing the fashion senses from people from other countries. Especially the Japanese girls received a lot of praise from other girls for their fashion sense. I am sure those Japanese students are happy they didn't leave their clothes at home to to go Walmart for clothes. It wouldn't have been the same. People aren't like you. They want to fit into the society they live in. Really, where does this attitude come from? It is extremely rude. I fit in just fine during my years in Japan. I dressed conservatively at work, and relaxed on my time off. Nothing I wore was offensive, my hair was kept at a reasonable length. Who are you to tell me whether I fit in or not, or whether I had a good experience or not? Seriously. Quote:
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Here's what I am getting: New arrivals from Japan wear Japanese fashion and have Japanese haircuts. So what? That makes them look like a new arrival (or as you would say, "FOB"). So what? That means they don't look like everyone else. So what? That means they don't fit into society. By what standards? Certainly not my standards. Certainly not the standards on most of the posters on Japan Forum. If YOU do not accept new arrivals into your social circle or into society because of they way they dress or the way they cut their hair, that is YOUR hang-up. If YOU feel more comfortable in the US in Old Navy clothes, then that's fine for you. Just because I felt just fine and had no problems in Japan in Old Navy clothes doesn't mean I didn't fit in or I had any less of an experience there. |
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