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12-24-2010, 01:18 PM
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mm wonder what that means? 
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12-24-2010, 01:22 PM
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everything is relative and contradictory ~
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12-24-2010, 02:17 PM
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12-24-2010, 02:47 PM
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 Anyway, that's just plain wrong. Who wants to be with a guy who's trying hard to not cheat on you? I mean, I want a guy who doesn't have to stop himself from cheating cause, if we're ok, he shouldn't even have the urge to do so. I'd dump the guy straight away if being with me meant he's making an effort to not be fucking anyone else. Your resolution should be to stop wanting to screw other women. Work hard on that. everything is relative and contradictory ~
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12-25-2010, 03:45 AM
Ah yes,bI must improve math as well...
I have no Friends- The cats have scratched and destroyed all of the DVDs! I always owe someone- In fact I put two os in it! I always ruin my clothes with Bleach!- The show is so dom suspensful I spill my grape soda on them! But . . .I'll live. 
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12-25-2010, 04:42 AM
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First of all, you're right, being with someone who is making an effort to not cheat sucks either way. Secondly, your desire for a partner who is unphased by his or her sexual attraction to others because you're so awesome is perfectly right, and so unrealistic. The most attractive thing about a new woman (or man) is in fact that she is new, at first with my girlfriend there was no issue. What husband in the world doesn't check out and dream about younger girls? none, you're in a dreamland or believing the lies if you think otherwise... If being a womanizer means I can appreciate the beauty and intelligence of women without thinking any less of them than I do myself, then so be it. I don't think less of a woman who is interested in many men because they all have different unique qualities that she enjoys. The problem starts when enjoying them leads to multiple sexual relationships, then it's not so much a womanizer as a promiscuous man-whore, which is what I'm wanting to avoid. Every long-term relationship in the world lacks the thrill and heartthrob of a new relationship, and it's okay to miss that. I don't hide any of this from my gf, she knows and understands, it's not like I love her any less. She's understanding, and feels the same way towards men, but we both know that what we have is better than the thrill of a fling. anyways, throw in the problem of having women who I consider out of my league making themselves available to me, and it makes it more irritating
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12-25-2010, 08:43 AM
none of this is my business of course.. I feel that of course its okay to still have friends of the opposite sex-- crikey it would be crazy having to avoid them and just because I am married does not mean that I am blind to others.
No I don't or didn't want sex with them-- I am not a Man-- but if one loves one partner-- then one would normally not be tempted to stray elsewhere. Much must depend on how serious a relationship is surely. Loyalty should be mutual in a steady relationship. not meaning that you should become a hermit or blind or deaf towards the opposite sex. If a relationship is mutually EASY with NO ties or commitments on either side then I guess its up to the individual. It can take along time to really get to know each other. I have many friends of both sexes thank goodness. I admire many of them. Somewhere earlier on here--James mentioned that his Girl friend's mother said she would kill herself if her husband went with a hostess. maybe this should be on the relationships thread. I do believe that in a real and genuine relationship-- Loyalty should be a Given. but no need to shut out all other friendships.
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12-25-2010, 08:52 AM
well one of my main resolutions is to read ALL of the books I have on or about Japan--History culture craft etc plus the DVD's I have about various aspects of Japan plus get stuck in to studying and learn how to write on this forum in NIHONGO.
also be there to support myJapanese friend the whole time that she needs me-- as it is because of my love for HER-- that set off the whole curiosity about Japan and the Japanese people.
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12-27-2010, 01:31 PM
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 I agree with all that and I know it's kinda hard to stick with the one you've got and not feel tempted by other members of the opposite sex. Been there myself. However, the fact that it happens to everyone doesn't make it right. I believe in the kind of love that makes you not want to be with anyone else cause you believe no one out there can possibly be a better catch. If you're not sure about wanting to be with someone then geez!, break it off, be single for a while, realize what you want and if you feel the need to get back to that one person you left then go back and see if you can work things out and get back together. But wishing you were single so that you could stand a chance with other people? wrong wrong worng. (ps. know what? I am the same as you, so it's okay if you choose not to take my advice on this LOL) everything is relative and contradictory ~
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