New Year Resolutions Anyone?

[RealJames]

Originally Posted by Suki

Hahah sucks to be ya

I agree with all that and I know it's kinda hard to stick with the one you've got and not feel tempted by other members of the opposite sex. Been there myself. However, the fact that it happens to everyone doesn't make it right. I believe in the kind of love that makes you not want to be with anyone else cause you believe no one out there can possibly be a better catch. If you're not sure about wanting to be with someone then geez!, break it off, be single for a while, realize what you want and if you feel the need to get back to that one person you left then go back and see if you can work things out and get back together. But wishing you were single so that you could stand a chance with other people? wrong wrong worng.

(ps. know what? I am the same as you, so it's okay if you choose not to take my advice on this LOL)

I love your secret comments
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Yeah, I don't wish I was single, I just wish the women in my life would be cool with just being friends without flirting with me all the time and sending all these signals, some not so discreet.

(ps. I had a feeling you were! How many guys are you fending off??)

[Suki]

Originally Posted by RealJames

I love your secret comments
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Yeah, I don't wish I was single, I just wish the women in my life would be cool with just being friends without flirting with me all the time and sending all these signals, some not so discreet.

(ps. I had a feeling you were! How many guys are you fending off??)

Do you know for sure they are flirting with you? Cause, maybe it's all in your head.

Or maybe you're too hot for them to not make it obvious they'd like to screw you, and so that's what it's all about: sex; and they're not really wanting anything from you but some steamy time with a hot new man.
(None. Just keeping the thrill going but, unlike you, I don't have to make it a New Year's resolution to not find my legs wrapped around a guy who isn't my boyfriend, cause I know it will not happen unless I fully intend for it to happen).

[CassandraSnow]

i hope i find some peace and quiet finally

[TalnSG]

For about the past 17 years I have had the same New Year's resolution.

"I resolve not to bother with New Year's Resolutions, other than this."

[RealJames]

Originally Posted by Suki

Do you know for sure they are flirting with you? Cause, maybe it's all in your head.

Or maybe you're too hot for them to not make it obvious they'd like to screw you, and so that's what it's all about: sex; and they're not really wanting anything from you but some steamy time with a hot new man.
(None. Just keeping the thrill going but, unlike you, I don't have to make it a New Year's resolution to not find my legs wrapped around a guy who isn't my boyfriend, cause I know it will not happen unless I fully intend for it to happen).

Yeah, it's flirting. Uncharacteristically blatant too when it comes to the Japanese. Sometimes to the point where I feel like I gotta just walk away otherwise I'll be forced into a situation that would be grounds enough for my girlfriend to want to leave me.
I don't wanna seem like I'm some sort of celebrity icon here, but honestly a decent looking foreigner will have a hard time shaking off the trash here.
These days I've found some more respectable circles of less slutty people to hang out with, but it may just be because they're new that they don't feel comfortable enough to do what the last bunch has done. ><

Where are the other foreign guys here who've been in Japan a while? And experienced what I mean? I know I'm not the only one ...
The more Japanese I learn the more intense it gets too.

It's getting hard to find a good group of friends to hang out with in which I don't make all the guys jealous and some of the girls distracted.
I swear I'm not conceited ... just saying it how it is, honestly I'm an "average" at best back home.
I guess the resolution is to find places where I can hang out where I don't get pounced on. Sometimes it happens while my girlfriend is right beside me, which infuriates her ... even though I don't react to it -_-

[Suki]

Heeey New Year's still two days away and my resolution is half way complete already. I'm almost done with season 2 of Dexter. Go me!

Originally Posted by RealJames

I guess the resolution is to find places where I can hang out where I don't get pounced on. Sometimes it happens while my girlfriend is right beside me, which infuriates her ... even though I don't react to it -_-

LOL Poor girlfriend of yours. I guess you're fine as long as you don't give her actual reasons to be jealous. Good luck with that.

[JasonTakeshi]

fortunately, I will enjoy it with all my MALE friends. (no homo)

Yes, because women are such a disappointment.

[RealJames]

Originally Posted by JasonTakeshi

fortunately, I will enjoy it with all my MALE friends. (no homo)

Yes, because women are such a disappointment.

Oh I feel so bad for you, women are the greatest pleasure anyone can have. Including women.
(Am I back to being a womanizer now?)

There is no joy without the chance of pain.

[dogsbody70]

Originally Posted by RealJames

Yeah, it's flirting. Uncharacteristically blatant too when it comes to the Japanese. Sometimes to the point where I feel like I gotta just walk away otherwise I'll be forced into a situation that would be grounds enough for my girlfriend to want to leave me.
I don't wanna seem like I'm some sort of celebrity icon here, but honestly a decent looking foreigner will have a hard time shaking off the trash here.
These days I've found some more respectable circles of less slutty people to hang out with, but it may just be because they're new that they don't feel comfortable enough to do what the last bunch has done. ><

Where are the other foreign guys here who've been in Japan a while? And experienced what I mean? I know I'm not the only one ...
The more Japanese I learn the more intense it gets too.

It's getting hard to find a good group of friends to hang out with in which I don't make all the guys jealous and some of the girls distracted.
I swear I'm not conceited ... just saying it how it is, honestly I'm an "average" at best back home.
I guess the resolution is to find places where I can hang out where I don't get pounced on. Sometimes it happens while my girlfriend is right beside me, which infuriates her ... even though I don't react to it -_-

HI James, I guess its rather like back in WW2 when the americans came to UK-- and the local females fell madly in love with them. they handed out bubble gum and nylon stockings-- and many girls HA HA ended up with an extra mouth to feed.


Maybe its like that in OKINAWA or where else the American service men are. there is an attraction to someone different really.


Maybe the girls look at you as a way of escaping their own world.

maybe you should have a sign on your T shirt--Not available!


Or something that might put them off- sure u can think of something LOL.

[RealJames]

Originally Posted by dogsbody70

Maybe the girls look at you as a way of escaping their own world.

bingo

Originally Posted by dogsbody70

maybe you should have a sign on your T shirt--Not available!

Or something that might put them off- sure u can think of something LOL.

I used to have a white shirt that I wrote "おれはボケがいじん" on in big black marker, I didn't know any kanji at the time so it looked just like that...

It didn't help, or, it did help, depending on how you look at it, at the time I was single, so it helped ><