Japanese girls that stare at gaijin

[RealJames]

Originally Posted by Umihito

Woah woah... what I'm getting from the posts here is that it's REALLY easy to just find a Japanese girl who'll go on a date straight away with any random foreigner.
I thought it would be a LOT harder than what most people seem to be saying... what about the language barrier? Japanese with self respect? Well maybe self respect is the wrong phrase to use... but maybe caution?

Honestly I think it's both a lot easier AND a lot harder.

People tend to have very different and unfounded ideas and curiosities and past experiences relating to foreigners.
Of my gf's friends, some are seriously so NOT into foreigners that they even felt it strange that she is with me. Others are wildly jealous of her. Some simply have no clue and are just inquisitive.
Many others had all these wild misconceptions about what it meant or would be like to have a foreign bf, some really ridiculous shit too.

One of her friends expected that I'd want to be a stay-at-home-dad asap and stop working to leave the salarywoman responsibility to my gf..

In other words, most people simply don't know.
They think we are sex gods, or they think we have soft penises, they think we do all the housework, they think we talk to much, they think we stink, they think we know zero Japanese, or they think we are obviously fluent, they think we are in the military or that we are violent and love to show off muscles, they think so many things and most of all they think nothing or just don't care.

When it comes to one night stands, it's easy for Japanese men too lol, not just westerners, but I definitely had more luck than my friends when I first got here including not getting chlamydia like he did lol ><

[OHayou]

Originally Posted by tokusatsufan

LOL that is such a mental thing to do! ''Come here white boy''? In broken English?! You should have said ''Stop trying to act white!'' Did you see what they looked like? I'm guessing they were really nothing to write home about?!

lol @ broken english..."come here-ing rite boy!"

The women in Japan were very feminine, cute, and polite with innocent stares of curiosity. However, every time I played a fighting game at an arcade a Japanese guy would enter into a match with me unannounced (the fighting sims are linked in the arcades which was new TO ME at least) and effectively kick my ass.

[Umihito]

Originally Posted by RealJames

Honestly I think it's both a lot easier AND a lot harder.

People tend to have very different and unfounded ideas and curiosities and past experiences relating to foreigners.
Of my gf's friends, some are seriously so NOT into foreigners that they even felt it strange that she is with me. Others are wildly jealous of her. Some simply have no clue and are just inquisitive.
Many others had all these wild misconceptions about what it meant or would be like to have a foreign bf, some really ridiculous shit too.

One of her friends expected that I'd want to be a stay-at-home-dad asap and stop working to leave the salarywoman responsibility to my gf..

In other words, most people simply don't know.
They think we are sex gods, or they think we have soft penises, they think we do all the housework, they think we talk to much, they think we stink, they think we know zero Japanese, or they think we are obviously fluent, they think we are in the military or that we are violent and love to show off muscles, they think so many things and most of all they think nothing or just don't care.

When it comes to one night stands, it's easy for Japanese men too lol, not just westerners, but I definitely had more luck than my friends when I first got here including not getting chlamydia like he did lol ><

Ahh, are you talking about this from a resident/long time stayer point of view, or a tourist one? I assumed you meant for tourists before. It would be a lot harder for them right? In terms of a resident, then yeah I see where you're coming from.

Yeah, I guess it all depend on what girl you find, just like anywhere else. But still, I never expected it to be that out in the open. :L

I'm guessing your last paragraph relates to one night stands as a resident too? Seems as you had Japanese friends to take you around and such. Or would you say it's just as easy for a tourist too?

Lol! *high 5*

[japan1234567]

Originally Posted by MissMisa

I got the impression that the Japanese guys thought we were 'easy' because we got so many compliments and erm, ended up getting groped by a couple of weirdos who wanted a one night stand. Don't know about the opposite way round, but my point is, false impressions can easily be given on both sides. I'm not gonna judge everyone on that experience but the over confident ones seemed to be that way.

Maybe the Japanese girls have a thing for foreigners like they seemed to do with us, but tbh the majority of stares just looked curious as we were stared at by girls as well.

Hi MissMisa,
You are right. Japanese girls just looked curious. Local men - like it'd be in every country - feel insecure about this. So, during my last trips in Japan I sometimes experienced embarrassing situations when a young Japanese girl sat near to me. Japanese men started coughing loudly and disturbing. They extremly fantasize about a foreigner and a Japanese girl. Fukuoka and Kyuushu men were mostly fantasizing and disturbing. It was impossible to work or to answer my e-mails. I each time went back to quiet hotel room
In the truth, Japanese girls want that Japanese men court them.

[tokusatsufan]

Originally Posted by OHayou

However, every time I played a fighting game at an arcade a Japanese guy would enter into a match with me unannounced (the fighting sims are linked in the arcades which was new TO ME at least) and effectively kick my ass.

Maybe you should try and do it back to them one day if you happen to be there.

[godwine]

I advise against causing any trouble or starting anything that can ause trouble in Japan, regardless of being a tourist or having a work/study visa...

[BobbyCooper]

Originally Posted by godwine

I advise against causing any trouble or starting anything that can ause trouble in Japan, regardless of being a tourist or having a work/study visa...

Why are you so upset about this? People like everything what is different.

For example, when I walk around in Frankfurt and a beautiful Asian girl walks by, I can't help but stare. It's because I rarely see it over here.. same goes for handsome Asian men.

And most of them time, I wish I could spend time with her or do naughty things to her haha

[Umihito]

Originally Posted by BobbyCooper

And most of them time, I wish I could spend time with her or do naughty things to her haha

But that's not what people want when they're on holiday... to be leered over and perved on by guys. I guess it can't be helped, but still. The trials of being a woman, I swear... (I'm not one :L)

I would have thought that you of all people would be worried about polluting her Asian perfection with your white Western manhood :L

[Fr3sh]

Originally Posted by Umihito

I would have thought that you of all people would be worried about polluting her Asian perfection with your white Western manhood :L

LMFAO!!

Anyways I don't think staring should be any kind of problem...they're most likely just curious.

[godwine]

Originally Posted by BobbyCooper

Why are you so upset about this? People like everything what is different.

For example, when I walk around in Frankfurt and a beautiful Asian girl walks by, I can't help but stare. It's because I rarely see it over here.. same goes for handsome Asian men.

And most of them time, I wish I could spend time with her or do naughty things to her haha

I wasn't talking about the thing with asian girls anymore. I decided to stay out of that conversation.

I was talking about causing trouble in general... if you think that courting with girls during a vacation is a form of causing trouble, then you answered yourself already...