how to propose

[rockduck]

hello,

i have a japanese girlfriend who i like to become my wife
she will be with in antwerp in december and would like to ask her to be my wife
but i want to do it in japanese....

i'm studying the language with hajime ni ippon,witch is great for start learning
but not for real time conversation,wakatta?

can somebody help me with teaching me the right sentence?

thanks

[Harold]

Well.. here's the easier part to say.

Will you marry me? - boku to kekkon shite kuremasen ka?
ぼくとけっこんしてくれませんか？
僕と結婚してくれませんか？

Everything up to that... is well, up to you to say.

[Nyororin]

I say not to do it in Japanese.
If you`ve been communicating in another language all along, using Japanese for just this one event may actually have the opposite effect and not feel real at all. I know that if my husband were to say words of love in English (which is probably at the same level as your Japanese) it would be the strangest thing. Definitely not the feeling you want when you propose. If he`d proposed to me in a language he wasn`t that good in - I doubt I`d have believed it and would have required a confirmation in Japanese.

Tell her you love her and want to marry her in the language that carries meaning for you and for the both of you. That is what matters.

[kenmei]

Originally Posted by Nyororin

I say not to do it in Japanese.
If you`ve been communicating in another language all along, using Japanese for just this one event may actually have the opposite effect and not feel real at all. I know that if my husband were to say words of love in English (which is probably at the same level as your Japanese) it would be the strangest thing. Definitely not the feeling you want when you propose. If he`d proposed to me in a language he wasn`t that good in - I doubt I`d have believed it and would have required a confirmation in Japanese.

Tell her you love her and want to marry her in the language that carries meaning for you and for the both of you. That is what matters.

I have to agree with Nyororin here, as I've done the same in English to my fiancee. However, to ask her father permission, I asked him in Japanese. He does understand english but, I thought it would be more manly if I showed him how much I mean it by speaking his native tongue.

[KyoKitty92]

oh marriage! how romantic! *swoons*

[ThirdSight]

Originally Posted by Nyororin

I say not to do it in Japanese.
If you`ve been communicating in another language all along, using Japanese for just this one event may actually have the opposite effect and not feel real at all. I know that if my husband were to say words of love in English (which is probably at the same level as your Japanese) it would be the strangest thing. Definitely not the feeling you want when you propose. If he`d proposed to me in a language he wasn`t that good in - I doubt I`d have believed it and would have required a confirmation in Japanese.

Tell her you love her and want to marry her in the language that carries meaning for you and for the both of you. That is what matters.

Seconded.

This is synonymous to girls who get tattoos of Japanese or Chinese characters on the small of their back that roughly translates to "Loose Women", when they think it means "Chastity".

[Wasabista]

Good advice from Nyororin. And afterward, you might think about learning Japanese formally, to make communication with your lovely bride easier through the years.

[alexlovesrock]

Good Luck! Tell us about the proposal and what happens!!!

[DragonShade]

lol this one is just for fun (dont take it serious) オレの嫁になれ！ XD
I would say , オレが君を幸せにしてやる、オレと結婚してくれないか ？

And good luck~ 健闘を祈る (XDD)