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Originally Posted by bELyVIS
If you read what I wrote I said she is submissive by nature and I didn't say I wanted her to submit to me. Most Asian women are raised this way. I don't agree with that but that is just the way it is. If anything I am teaching her not to be submissive. By her being submissive she is happy when I show her I value her as my equal. She is also happy that I don't treat her like my piece of property. I am happy that we are able to compromise (I don't always get my way and that is fine by me). We do have a loving relationship because I am showing her that her upbringing isn't how life has to be and that I respect and love her enough to let her help me with our decisions in life.
As far as what I wrote that got you mad, I say who cares? I don't expect you to understand because: A. You are not a man dating American women, and B. You are not an American Woman. I have dated many women from all over and just don't like how American women act any more (my sister included). You can't have a 50-50 relationship if one is trying too hard to be equal. Granted women have been treated badly by alot of macho men, but there needs to be a happy medium where both partners treat each other with respect and realize they can't have their way always. By overcompensating alot of women have become downright bossy. This is not a good relationship. Marriage has become a gamble at best since the feminest movement started. Just look up when the divorce rate shot up. 1960's (start of the feminist movement) to the present and it's getting worse.My parents have a great relationship because neither trys to run the marriage.
Where does rape, porno, or anything else come into this? Porno is done by two slezy people accepting money to do those things(if anyone believes that the pizza deliveryman gets sex every time he delivers a pizza, they need serious help it's all a stupid fantasy written by a slezy person a man or woman). Rape is just violence that should be punished by death.These have nothing to do with a relationship.
I apoligize for nothing since I know I am not doing anything to be ashamed of. My opinion is based on years (yes, I am older than most here) of observation and experience.
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I'm not asking you to apologize. I guess you assuming that I am means you're being slightly defensive, which suggests that you feel guilty about something. I don't have anything to do with that, though.
Again, it's great that you have a loving relationship. But both this time and last time, you said that you like that she submits to you. I can't remember the exact words, but last time I think you said that you like that she strokes your male ego or something like that. I'm just asking why you like this.
And um - well, I'm not sure if this really has anything to do with this thread, or if it matters at all, but I AM American. I'm also a gay, and have dated women before. The same gender roles seen with men and women are found with lesbians and gay men. Someone is expected to submit. Again, I'm not sure if this has anything to do with the point, but since you brought it up I thought I should clarify.
About divorce and the feminist movement: are you suggesting that women should have remained in an oppressed state for the sanctity of marriage? Oh my.
I already explained why porn and rape have to do with this post. It's violence against women. Women's rights are not all about, "It's YOUR turn to do the dishes, honey!" as you had suggested before. I was merely trying to straighten that out for you.