Inter-racial attraction

[bonjoliehistrionic]

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Anyway, I think this is a pretty retard thread. Being attracted to "Japanese" girls, or "Chinese" or whatever, that seems pretty childish. In reality, you're a complete moron if you're not judging each potential date as an individual, rather than saying "She's Japanese, she'll do..."

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i think its more of a preference. than 'she'll do'. like some people prefer to date blondes or boys taller than them. some people prefer to date asians. i personally do too. but that doesnt mean if i liked someone of another race i wouldnt date them or that i go out looking for asians in particular.

[iPhantom]

Originally Posted by bonjoliehistrionic

i think its more of a preference. than 'she'll do'. like some people prefer to date blondes or boys taller than them. some people prefer to date asians. i personally do too. but that doesnt mean if i liked someone of another race i wouldnt date them or that i go out looking for asians in particular.

Wow, you consider race to be the same as a hair color change. It's much more than that.

[Ryzorian]

It might also be that idea of taboo, that some things are forbidden fruit as it were. Afterall, whats the first thing a child does when you tell them they can't have the candy sitting in the jar?

Cultures are the same way, it's how you get crazies like the KKK complaining about "keeping the race pure". Course, the moment something becomes forbidden, it attracts. So that prolly has something to do with it as well.

While culturally speaking some of these are a result of the taboo factor, I still think much of it is natures atempt to create stronger bloodlines through hibreds.

The irony is that those who advocate keeping the so called "races" Pure are in fact advocateing keeping thier own race weak. I'm from Iowa, where we have alot of corn...all of it super hibred versions. Heck, the orginal "purebred" line of corn you would hardly recognize as corn. It certainly isn't going to produce 200 bushles an acre or be insect resistant.

[DJnohara]

Originally Posted by burkhartdesu

I see your point, but there a people who are exclusively attracted to asians.

Is it that politically incorrect to admit you are attracted because of ethnicity? It's not always just because someone is 'attractive'

Well.. it just sort of seems like its sexually objectifying Asian women to say like "Asian women are so hot".
I grew up in almost all women family and several of my friends happen to be Asian women so the feminist influence kinda grew on me.
Plus I've heard women who are Asian say they're put off by guys who say that.

If you put things in perspective it would make me a bit uncomfortable if someones like "Ooooh white guys (at least I'm guessing thats most of my heritage) are sooo hot"

Why do many people seem to think so much about ethnicity?
I mean whether you're black, white, Arab etc we're all just people.

[Ryzorian]

Asian girls being disconcerted about appearing "hot" to some one might be due to cultural ideals about not attracting attention to ones self. Least ways that might be part of it.

I'm also sure no one wants to be considered an "object" I most assuredly agree with you there. However, most people like to think they are attractive to others.

So wether someone dislikes how a person reacts to them prolly depends a good deal on what type of reaction it is and how it's presented. No girl would apreciate catcalls but I'm sure many would value a kind word or two. Such as You dress likes nice on you or I like what you did with your hair and that sort of thing.

I realize it's small talk to some dagree, but woman/girls go through alot of trouble to present themselves in a way they feel confident in, and haveing someone notice the effort they make, is appreciated.

[bELyVIS]

My attraction to Asian women goes back to when I was young and my Uncle married a Japanese lady. She is very feminine and kind but her looks are average. While I find pretty women from all races, I feel Asian women treat me how I want to be treated. After being married to an American woman, I will never have anything to do with one again no matter what race she is. I feel that "Equal rights" has put man-woman relationships out of balance. American women want to be so equal that they over do it and try to be in charge. A relationship is 50-50. My Japanese wife is submissive by nature, but I am making her understand that she is equal in her opinions and I take what she thinks into consideration. She loves this because no Japanese men treated her like this. I don't own her so she (and I) is happy to cooperate with me.
I know I'll get flak for this (especially from American women) but this is how I feel.

[mercedesjin]

Originally Posted by bELyVIS

My attraction to Asian women goes back to when I was young and my Uncle married a Japanese lady. She is very feminine and kind but her looks are average. While I find pretty women from all races, I feel Asian women treat me how I want to be treated. After being married to an American woman, I will never have anything to do with one again no matter what race she is. I feel that "Equal rights" has put man-woman relationships out of balance. American women want to be so equal that they over do it and try to be in charge. A relationship is 50-50. My Japanese wife is submissive by nature, but I am making her understand that she is equal in her opinions and I take what she thinks into consideration. She loves this because no Japanese men treated her like this. I don't own her so she (and I) is happy to cooperate with me.
I know I'll get flak for this (especially from American women) but this is how I feel.

I think I remember you talking about your wife before, and I said then that it's great to have a loving relationship - and I still believe that. It may sound corny, but love is a beautiful thing. But I AM curious. Why do you like her to be submissive to you?

I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty annoyed when you said what I've put in bold. Women's rights are not only getting women out of the kitchen, but stopping brutal attacks against women. Physical and verbal domestic abuse, rape, molestation - a lot of it stems from the idea that women are submissive, and the attackers want to feel stronger by attacking someone who is submissive.

Sorry if this seems inappropriate, but it's something I study in school, so I want to bring it up: a lot of modern day porn is a perfect example. Most of it is extremely derogatory towards women, making men powerful while women are turned into holes to attack - literally. Porn generally reflects the sexual ideals of a society - porn is what people fantasize about, right? That suggests that, in today's society, a lot of people just view women as holes - and bitches, whores, etc.

Then there's also economic oppression, with women who struggle financially because many still DO believe that women belong in the kitchen, not in the workplace.

I do agree with you about the 50-50 dynamic, though. If I ever marry a man, I would expect him to do chores - and I would help him, too. I would have a job, and I would expect him to have one too. If we had children, I would expect him to stay home certain days while I'm at work and I would stay home other days while he's out. It definitely needs to be a balance. But this brings me back to my question to you - if you believe this, then why do you still like having a woman submit to you?

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by burkhartdesu

I see your point, but there a people who are exclusively attracted to asians.

Is it that politically incorrect to admit you are attracted because of ethnicity? It's not always just because someone is 'attractive'

That's true. I'm one of them.

now, don't get me wrong. I don't rule anyone out. The last person I was with is Hispanic. But it's Asians who really draw my interest.

Originally Posted by mercedesjin

Okay, so I REALLY want to marry a Japanese guy. I think Japanese men are the sexiest men in the world. They're all really quiet and listen, and I like that they all have this feminine thing about them. The next time I go to Japan, I'm going to try to find a Japanese guy so that I can marry him.

... Does anyone really not see a problem with someone saying that?

not me.

[bELyVIS]

Originally Posted by mercedesjin

I think I remember you talking about your wife before, and I said then that it's great to have a loving relationship - and I still believe that. It may sound corny, but love is a beautiful thing. But I AM curious. Why do you like her to be submissive to you?

I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty annoyed when you said what I've put in bold. Women's rights are not only getting women out of the kitchen, but stopping brutal attacks against women. Physical and verbal domestic abuse, rape, molestation - a lot of it stems from the idea that women are submissive, and the attackers want to feel stronger by attacking someone who is submissive.

Sorry if this seems inappropriate, but it's something I study in school, so I want to bring it up: a lot of modern day porn is a perfect example. Most of it is extremely derogatory towards women, making men powerful while women are turned into holes to attack - literally. Porn generally reflects the sexual ideals of a society - porn is what people fantasize about, right? That suggests that, in today's society, a lot of people just view women as holes - and bitches, whores, etc.

Then there's also economic oppression, with women who struggle financially because many still DO believe that women belong in the kitchen, not in the workplace.

I do agree with you about the 50-50 dynamic, though. If I ever marry a man, I would expect him to do chores - and I would help him, too. I would have a job, and I would expect him to have one too. If we had children, I would expect him to stay home certain days while I'm at work and I would stay home other days while he's out. It definitely needs to be a balance. But this brings me back to my question to you - if you believe this, then why do you still like having a woman submit to you?

If you read what I wrote I said she is submissive by nature and I didn't say I wanted her to submit to me. Most Asian women are raised this way. I don't agree with that but that is just the way it is. If anything I am teaching her not to be submissive. By her being submissive she is happy when I show her I value her as my equal. She is also happy that I don't treat her like my piece of property. I am happy that we are able to compromise (I don't always get my way and that is fine by me). We do have a loving relationship because I am showing her that her upbringing isn't how life has to be and that I respect and love her enough to let her help me with our decisions in life.
As far as what I wrote that got you mad, I say who cares? I don't expect you to understand because: A. You are not a man dating American women, and B. You are not an American Woman. I have dated many women from all over and just don't like how American women act any more (my sister included). You can't have a 50-50 relationship if one is trying too hard to be equal. Granted women have been treated badly by alot of macho men, but there needs to be a happy medium where both partners treat each other with respect and realize they can't have their way always. By overcompensating alot of women have become downright bossy. This is not a good relationship. Marriage has become a gamble at best since the feminest movement started. Just look up when the divorce rate shot up. 1960's (start of the feminist movement) to the present and it's getting worse.My parents have a great relationship because neither trys to run the marriage.
Where does rape, porno, or anything else come into this? Porno is done by two slezy people accepting money to do those things(if anyone believes that the pizza deliveryman gets sex every time he delivers a pizza, they need serious help it's all a stupid fantasy written by a slezy person a man or woman). Rape is just violence that should be punished by death.These have nothing to do with a relationship.
I apoligize for nothing since I know I am not doing anything to be ashamed of. My opinion is based on years (yes, I am older than most here) of observation and experience.

[ModusOperandi]

I just got done reading through the thread and to be honest, I find it hard to believe that anyone can actually limit themselves to a certain race. Sure there can be a slightly heightened interest in one race over the other but to completely disregard all other races seems a bit far fetched.

I’m pretty certain that there isn’t a human alive that can’t find, at least, a single attractive person from any/all races.

Tossing aside an entire group of people because of your “unfortunate” experiences with one or two people from that group seems like too much of an exaggeration.

Anyways, I don’t know what kind of cloud some of you are living under but I ask you to come down here with the rest of us and experience reality. The women/men you might hate in a particular group will, undoubtedly, exist in that other group you hold so sacred. Why? Well, because it really isn’t about a group but rather the individual … and believe you me, individuals come with all their quirky mannerisms no matter which part of the world they may hail from.