In love with a young girl

[Arikado]

Originally Posted by allie2590

Not always. For many people, sex is just a form of fun which is fueled by the body's desire to reproduce. Don't go thinking that's it's all about love, because it's not.

I never said it was all about love. I said it was a form of love. Read more carefully before criticizing. I'm not trying to be mean.

[MMM]

Simply put, a 16-year-old is still developing both physically and mentally, and that is part of the reason why there are laws in effect to protect not-fully mature individuals from adults that would take advantage of them.

You can say love is blind, and knows no age. That is fine, but how many of you here well over the age of 16 are still with the person you loved when you were 16?

As the brain and body mature, things change. Lots of girls regret not waiting until they were at least 18 before giving up their virginity, if only because the boy they thought they loved lost interest after she allowed him to sleep with her.

No matter how you look at it, there is no scenario where an older foreign man sleeping with a 16-year-old Japanese girl is a good idea.

[superheel]

Originally Posted by Arikado

Now now, sex is a form of love. It doesn't necessarily mean that they just want to have sex either. However, she is too young at the moment, that's for sure.

You know, if he really loves the girl, he'd wait for the right time. Now that for me, is true love. He shouldnt ask a question if theres a way he can have sex with this girl in the first place.

Originally Posted by MMM

Simply put, a 16-year-old is still developing both physically and mentally, and that is part of the reason why there are laws in effect to protect not-fully mature individuals from adults that would take advantage of them.

You can say love is blind, and knows no age. That is fine, but how many of you here well over the age of 16 are still with the person you loved when you were 16?

As the brain and body mature, things change. Lots of girls regret not waiting until they were at least 18 before giving up their virginity, if only because the boy they thought they loved lost interest after she allowed him to sleep with her.

No matter how you look at it, there is no scenario where an older foreign man sleeping with a 16-year-old Japanese girl is a good idea.

I'm 16 and I admit, I had a girlfriend before and we thought that we are made for each other, we even talked about our marriage and future plans. After 1 month our relationship is over. Stupid but true.

[joeyj]

What is your future plans with her? I mean, you're probably just going to have a fling, then eventually leave Japan and you're going to leave her behind... and I am yet to meet a girl that doesn't have some kind of mental issue that had sex with an older guy when they were young. And what if you accidentally get her pregnant?

I'd just find someone more closer to your age, its better for her probably down the future.

[TheUnknown]

Well, Lets Not Be Too Quick To Judge, Lust Is Part of Our Nature As Humans. =P But Ya.. Some Decisions Require Us To Think With Our Heads Not Down There.. =)

[PockyMePink]

I have a friend in this current situation (sorta, but lets just say that their friendship has a bit of.....life threatening twist to it).

I'm not going into detail about THEIR story, but my friend, being the older one, though it best to wait until she was at least 18 before doing anything. I think the same applies to this situation. If you really care for her, just wait it out.

[Onyx]

Originally Posted by bELyVIS

Skebee desu!

LOL @ this.

Funny how fast people forget age differences like this have only recently ( past 80 years tops) been considered taboo compared to the past thousands of years in "civilized" human history. Not to mention, its also a cultural "law" as well, meaning, not the whole planet thinks theres something wrong with a 16 and a 24 year old dating. Opinions on this are as diverse as the religions of the world, everyone knows they are right and thinks anyone who doesn't share their same view is wrong, that, is being closed minded.

So to the original poster, theres a difference between love and lust, make sure you completely understand what you are feeling. And if you're both sure its love, you must abide by the laws of the land you're in. So be with each other and enjoy each others company until you can actually make love.

[MMM]

Originally Posted by superheel

I'm 16 and I admit, I had a girlfriend before and we thought that we are made for each other, we even talked about our marriage and future plans. After 1 month our relationship is over. Stupid but true.

That's not stupid, that's normal.

[ThirdSight]

You want to know who came up with the whole, "Love has no boundaries," shtick? The people dating 16 year olds.

Love is powerful, love is very strong, and love can last a good long time. Love can reunite people, bring them closer together, and bring out the best in people. And there are all sorts of boundaries that can screw with the aforementioned.

But check this out: Age is not a boundary, it's a difference. If you honestly believe otherwise, I fully expect you to be asking couples or other people in general, "So what's your boundary in age?"

[MMM]

Originally Posted by Onyx

LOL @ this.

Funny how fast people forget age differences like this have only recently ( past 80 years tops) been considered taboo compared to the past thousands of years in "civilized" human history. Not to mention, its also a cultural "law" as well, meaning, not the whole planet thinks theres something wrong with a 16 and a 24 year old dating. Opinions on this are as diverse as the religions of the world, everyone knows they are right and thinks anyone who doesn't share their same view is wrong, that, is being closed minded.
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In the 1920s grown men were not encouraged to pursue 16 year old girls. Know what the average age of marriage for women in the US was in 1900? 22. For men it was 25.

So if you want to look back a couple thousand years, yes women were married at 12 and 13, but in a society where the life expectancy is under 40 years old, this makes more sense.

Regardless, it doesn't negate the fact that 16-year-olds are not yet fully mature, physically or emotionally.

When the question is "Should I have sex with a 16 year old girl?" the safe answer is always "No!"