how many times do you ask her out?

[ThirdSight]

It should be noted here that the few two posts are absolute disgraces to men. Everywhere.

It's usually once. If you're going to go for it again, give it some time to simmer whilst you keep hanging out with the girl. Don't expect to disappear for 5-6 months after you ask her out the first time to be swept off her feet.

And those ladies who claim to "like a challenge" either don't know what they really want or are willing to lower their standards to the point of accepting most guys who are willing to put up with them.

[spicytuna]

I know a few guys who are extremely persistent. One of them didn't accept no as an answer from a girl he liked and even forced himself into her apartment! When she threatened to call the police, he told her to go ahead.

Strangely enough, they ended up dating shortly afterwards.

Of course I'd never lower myself to that level. One try is enough for me.

[noonboy]

ones is good but thay rarely anser me but ,,,it is varey ex to get someone online,,,,

[TalnSG]

Originally Posted by spicytuna

I know a few guys who are extremely persistent. One of them didn't accept no as an answer from a girl he liked and even forced himself into her apartment! When she threatened to call the police, he told her to go ahead.

He's lucky. I have only had one man ever try to force his way into my apartment. He stopped when a dagger same flying toward him, and to his credit he slammed the door fast enough for the blade to be in it instead of him. No threats. These days I would have had the police on my phone the moment he croseed the threshold. If you are clearly told no, you better move along and forget it.

Strangely enough, they ended up dating shortly afterwards.

Of course I'd never lower myself to that level. One try is enough for me.

Some people don't see warning sign signs, do they?

[XKira]

I'm reading all of this and it's pretty interesting, although my answer is still the same, I don't chase and I don't like to play "that" kind of game. I don't think it's being lazy or stupid if you don't go after the girl, I mean it's just one girl. Very few people truly fall in love at first glance and unless that's what you're feeling I wouldn't waver for too long. It is true that a lot of girls are still being raised in the old fashion manner of letting the guy ask, but I'm the type that likes to start out my own, and if they're fine with clinging to their parents old ways then I don't think we have anything to talk about. Don't get me wrong, I respect my parents and their life style but if it's not what I want then I respectfully decline.

[ModusOperandi]

I think that if you have to be direct or if its someone you just set your eyes on for the first time then once is enough.

However, if you have time to kill and you personally believe that your relationship with said lady will escalate, then you have to be tactful. Throw a party or some kind of a social gathering. Invite her to the party, hang around her a bit more than the rest of the crowd. Wait a short while and throw something less vibrant...perhaps three to four friends (including her) to your place for dinner....this will develop some kind of trust and you'll also have a great idea of who she is and if she is really what you're looking for. However, don't let it delve into friendship. (be informal...just not too much) Before you know it...After doing all this, you will probably have an 80-90% chance of receiving a positive reply when you ask her out.

This method is not always full proof but it comes with a lot of perks...the main being that it offers both people the advantage of developing a little bit of trust and understanding.

[pumpum]

Originally Posted by peterv20

ok people,i've never been a ladies' man.yet my friends that think they're loverboys,players or whatever tell me this...you ask a girl out 3 times.then you know for sure she's not interested.i say that's crap.i ask a female out once.if it's no it's no.most girls don't care who they hurt or destroy.as long as they get the guy they want.

man thats crazy talk you should never take no for an answer !!

You know how many girls i been with who told me they werent interested at first lol.

persistance my friend !

[Salvanas]

I ask once, and only once.

I'm not the type to weep or feel sad at abit of neglectfulness. Hell, it's her loss. First, I'll hang out with her abit. If we enjoy each others company, I'll ask her out. IF she wants to take it further, then fine, we will. If she says no, then I'll just carry on as before.

It's not the end of the world, and it never will be. This "chasing" business is not needed, and to be honest, boring to me. Unless I somehow end up falling in love with the girl, then the hell am I going to chase you for a date. You say yes, and we enjoy ourselves. OR you say no, and we just carry on like before.

[sdbri]

Originally Posted by peterv20

ok people,i've never been a ladies' man.yet my friends that think they're loverboys,players or whatever tell me this...you ask a girl out 3 times.then you know for sure she's not interested.i say that's crap.i ask a female out once.if it's no it's no.most girls don't care who they hurt or destroy.as long as they get the guy they want.

If you know she likes you, three times. Otherwise, one time. If the answer's no, you have better alternatives later in your life.

[zed]

I have never asked more than two times and only to a girl that I know was interested and wanted to play, but yea if it is a plain no then move on and you can keep her as a friend who knows maybe something can happen in the future, but now she needs to make the move.
and now I only ask once and that is all it takes