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07-02-2009, 10:44 PM
o kay well im attracted to asian guys. I'm mixed with chinese, samoan, german, indian, and black. But my dad on the other hand (whos black) doesnt like the fact that im, in his words: worshiping asians. He thinks that because i love asian people and their culture, and i dont believe in god (which he does) so he thinks me liking asians so much, is me somehow idolizing them and making them my religeon(which it is'nt the case at all). i know, crazy huh?? well he also thinks that me liking asian guys is, in his words "non realistic" because from what "he" usually sees when it come to what "he" thinks asian guys go for is their own race or caucasian women. i havent seen any asian guys with other races either, but i dont think anything of it. anythings possible. i know that there is a heck of a culture difference dealing with me, and that it's going to be tough meshing the cultures and dealing with acceptance if the parents are old fashion. but it could happen right?? well pretty much i want to know if you guys think its possible or "realistic"?? i hope it is
 and give your opinon on the situation
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07-02-2009, 10:47 PM
I am feeling your father's thought's that he is just worried and trying to express his opinions on you which basically means he is worried and loves you.
He wants the best for you. If you do "find" this Asian prince and he is a decent person, ultimately your parents will warm up. It really is just the scare factor for your parents. Just listen, respect their opinions, and silently disagree if that's what it takes to solve arguments. Cheers - Oz
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07-02-2009, 10:55 PM
thank you!!
and i know he does, i wish he wasnt so overbearing about it. and he reads me well and knows what im feeling when i dont say a thing. so he automatically knows that i disagree. what about the guys parents?? ive never dated an asian guy before, what if their the old fashion kind and disagree with the relationship. how would i deal with that??
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07-02-2009, 11:03 PM
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The guys parents may disagree, but you need to brush that aside, and just hope that they can see the respectable person in you and ultimately appreciate that more than anything should your relationship with the guy get deeper. You will love him for who he is, and listen to what he believes in. He must do the same for you. You must respect each other's opinion's, once again, if love is real, you will do naturally what you think is best for each other. Ultimately, it's you and your guy that need to form the relationship first to inspire and gain the confidence of your parents. Cheers - Oz
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07-02-2009, 11:24 PM
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and thats what i believe as well when it comes to relationships, with all the superficial stuff aside. but i had to take into consideration that not everyone thinks as i do. and once again. . . your so awsome!! thanks for the advice ^_^ Quote:
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07-03-2009, 12:08 AM
tell me about it!!
and thank you very much! he should of saw this coming anyways i am mixed so theres no way i could pick one race, or go by race at that, i love people for who they are and their individuality. and i hate closed mined racist people!!
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07-03-2009, 01:53 AM
I know it sounds bad but every black guy I have ever meet has had the attitude that they can screw any women they want but "their" women(as in black women) are not allowed or supposed to like anyone outside "their" ethnic background. Never been able to understand how they came to that conclusion and only got stupid looks when I told them that attitude was just plain ignorant.
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07-03-2009, 01:54 AM
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LOL your welcome. But thats is how dads are. Once they have a daughter they want to protect them from everyything and I mean everything.
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So dont give up!!
