What should I do?

[Sheemy]

Originally Posted by nobora

Thank You. Its true I do still love him. And I dont think Im "plan B" . Besides if i was he'd be in big trouble cuz im no pushover. I will go for it

I am really really glad that i could help you Nobora , I'll be arround if u needed anything.
Take care and hope to hear always good news from u

[Akihiko]

It did not work out the first time. It can't be helped. ごめんね.

[nobora]

Originally Posted by Sheemy

I am really really glad that i could help you Nobora , I'll be arround if u needed anything.
Take care and hope to hear always good news from u

Thank You. I will keep you guys updated

[KylieHJensen]

Originally Posted by nobora

So Im not with this guy , we used to but we broke up. And for the past 3 or so days we've been talking and saying how much we miss each other and stuff like that.

The girl he dated before me ( who went with another guy broke his heart and now comes back) asked him out. He told her he'll think bout it. And he asked me if i would be ok with him dating her. I told him its his life his desicon.

But really we all know thats a lie.

What do i do??

Sounds like you are very into him. My advice to you is try to let go of him. You are about to get into a very complicated relationship if you continue to talk to him.

He is obviously more into the girl he previously dated than you. Otherwise he would not have broken up with you and thinking about dating the ex once again.

There are many cases where my patients had the smiliar experience and always end up on the losing end of the ordeal. Chances are, your exboyfriend has been communicating with his ex all along and awaits such opportunity (her breaking up with the guy she was with) to get back with her.

Do not get into too serious of a relationship with this type of a guy. You will find yourself in a no-win-situation down the road.

Best of luck to you

K. Jensen

[KylieHJensen]

Originally Posted by nobora

Heres an update:
He went out with her but she ignores him so hes thinking of breaking up with her. They wernt together that long either.

I noticed the vast majority of people who seeks help often *only* wants to hear advices that best suits what they want to hear. Although they would like to hear what others think and suggest her what to do, it is often a matter of a case where she just wants others to reconfirm her thoughts.

It sounds like you really want him to come back to you. You are hopeful that the exgf would be ignoring him and realize he is better off being with you instead. Keep in mind, more often than not, the guy who broke up with you also wants the *other girl* to like him. As soon as she does, he will get rid of you altogether. It's not to sound bitter, but he would not have broken up with you from the first place if he was really that into you.

[nobora]

We broke up in the first place becasue of some really complicated family stuff. And i came here to get harsh critisicm not to have my thoughts confirmed. If that makes any sense..

[Sheemy]

Originally Posted by KylieHJensen

Sounds like you are very into him. My advice to you is try to let go of him. You are about to get into a very complicated relationship if you continue to talk to him.

He is obviously more into the girl he previously dated than you. Otherwise he would not have broken up with you and thinking about dating the ex once again.

There are many cases where my patients had the smiliar experience and always end up on the losing end of the ordeal. Chances are, your exboyfriend has been communicating with his ex all along and awaits such opportunity (her breaking up with the guy she was with) to get back with her.

Do not get into too serious of a relationship with this type of a guy. You will find yourself in a no-win-situation down the road.

Best of luck to you

K. Jensen

If what you say is true, then there are 2 possibilities ...
1) He is not a serious guy and just wants to play arround and stuff but in that case i guess he made a mistake by asking her to go out with his ex gf or even mentioning anything about his ex gf. i myself find that possibility too week.
2) he's a good and honest guy who has an open mind and respects Nobora and still loves her.
remember that we dunno why they broke up from the first place ... maybe they love each other but just can't quite understand each other ... in that case no one is to be blamed.... that was just an example.

[Sheemy]

Originally Posted by nobora

We broke up in the first place becasue of some really complicated family stuff. And i came here to get harsh critisicm not to have my thoughts confirmed. If that makes any sense..

Dear Nobora,
i just wanna tell u something about that matter ... all u have to do is only read our replies and dun take them as an absolute fact. in other words i mean to tell u that there are a lot of differences in points of views based on each one's own experience ... use ur own mind and see what is best for u and do NOT lie to ur self ( if u know deep within ur self that he's a bad guy for example, don't just ignore that). all that we're trying to do is to help u but u have to take the decision on ur own.

[nobora]

Originally Posted by Sheemy

Dear Nobora,
i just wanna tell u something about that matter ... all u have to do is only read our replies and dun take them as an absolute fact. in other words i mean to tell u that there are a lot of differences in points of views based on each one's own experience ... use ur own mind and see what is best for u and do NOT lie to ur self ( if u know deep within ur self that he's a bad guy for example, don't just ignore that). all that we're trying to do is to help u but u have to take the decision on ur own.

Yes sheemy your completley right. Its my decision. And I know that i still like him cuz when i saw him. my heart just spazzed out. so thats good right?

[KylieHJensen]

Originally Posted by Sheemy

If what you say is true, then there are 2 possibilities ...
1) He is not a serious guy and just wants to play arround and stuff but in that case i guess he made a mistake by asking her to go out with his ex gf or even mentioning anything about his ex gf. i myself find that possibility too week.
2) he's a good and honest guy who has an open mind and respects Nobora and still loves her.
remember that we dunno why they broke up from the first place ... maybe they love each other but just can't quite understand each other ... in that case no one is to be blamed.... that was just an example.

First, I want to point out any given advice is only meant to be taken into consideration. One has the right to exercise and choose which advice best fit their situation. After all, she is the one that will ultimately make any type of decisions and we are only here to offer our opinion and advice.

Second, it is my years of professional study and experience (I am a Psychologist) history have shown me that most guys who would end their relationship with their girlfriend and begin a new one with the previous, often shows continuation affection toward the ex. In many cases, the love/feeling for the previous ex never went away and still holds true during the next relationship (in this case, Nobora.)

Third, mostly like it is true her boyfriend is yet matured enough to decide what is best for the relationship. The boyfriend so far, only thinks what is best for him and not for both of them.

Lastly, action sets precedence as the boyfriend clearly has shown immaturity. If he truly loved her, and family issues got in the way of their relationship, it is highly unlike for him to start dating the previous girlfriend if he was truly in love with Nobora.