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Originally Posted by xYinniex
New question for the guys:
What is up with the weird thing about choosing a girlfriend that needs to feel the need to depend on you? What's wrong with independent women? Like is it a pre-requisite that you need to have an idea that the girl you date will be definitely be heartbroken after your relationship?
Of course I don't mean all guys, but a lot of guys I know do this and it BAFFLES me. I mean SERIOUSLY, Making girls cry? Who do you think you are, Georgie Porgie?
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Relationship wise, there’s little worse than for a man to be with a woman who makes him feel unwanted. Why? I don’t know, but I believe the answer lies ingrained in centuries of prescribed gender roles. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be some dependent, clingy, needy woman to make a man feel comfortable with you. You just have to do some little things here and there to make him feel like he’s wanted. Once in a while, ask him to come over and fix a door knob, change a light bulb or place some tiles and then, stroke his ego for it. Some women appreciate being told how attractive they are, and some men like being told that they are lifesavers or problem solvers.
As for your last bit, I can’t really answer since I’m not, nor have I ever met, a man who takes pride in making a woman cry. If you know men like that, they’re the exception and not the norm. Douches, some might call them. :P
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Originally Posted by ARoomwithaMOOSE
Yippee other people who dislike Twilight as much as I do^^
Okay so here's a question for the guys:
Why do you feel the need to "talk" to a girls chest?
(granted I'm 6' 3" so I have to deal with it all the time due to the fact most guys are eye level with my chest) but come on, most women don't stand there talking to your crotch.
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We’re men. That means we’re sexual beings. We’re on overdrive most of the time and, as a result, our eyes will stray. It’s natural so get used to it woman because it won’t change any time soon. But take comfort in knowing that if we like you, no amount of visual straying will make us stray from your path. Besides, don't pretend women don't steal glances here and there. It's just human nature to stare at amazing things.
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Originally Posted by ARoomwithaMOOSE
Here's another:
Why do men have such an issue with women who are taller then them, out spoken and able to take care of themselves? Are all guys attracted to needy, clingy, tiny women, or is it just where I live?
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No man cares whether you’re short , tall or the she hulk in all her glory. If you are who you are and you look good doing it, a man will find a way to make it work. More often than not, I believe it's the taller woman who only wants to be with taller men.
Now, as for your “outspoken, taking-care-of-herself woman,” I’ll tell you this much; a man doesn’t mind these qualities. In fact, some might find it extremely attractive. The problems surface when the outgoing, outspoken and taking-care-of-herself woman begins to "feel" like she’s intimidating the man due to her qualities or, even worse, begins to act on these feelings. I mentioned that there’s little worse than making a man feel unwanted/useless in a relationship. But, one of the things that’s worse, however, is making a man feel unwanted/useless AND THEN using your success or independence to undermine him for it. A woman wouldn't like this, so there's no reason why a man would want to deal with it.
As long as you mutually respect each other, then I think that’s perfect for moving one step closer to a healthy relationship....or, at the very least, understanding each other.
