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I broke up with bf in Japan .. last night -
08-03-2011, 02:06 AM
Last night I just broke up with my boyfriend
I don't know how to continue my life in Japan anymore but I have to keep studying I can't concentrate on my class at all He's brazilian Japanese I'm 25 yrs from Thailand I left all my jobs in Thailand and came here for him We had so much great time in Japan He really loved me so much But one day he was changed started to think about money and jobs and started to ignore me then finally he said love is not the same He doesn''t know that he love me or not He said all he think is work He doesn't even care about me now last word from him was when I asked him by text message last night that " Just tell me if you still love me or not" Then he said by text " Love wakaranai .. sorry" It was like the whole world end for me My heart was ripped apart I have only few friends here I don't know what to do .. DO know how can I live without him He is everything for me He loved me Then he left me crying alone I just want to talk to some other people or making friends if they could suggest or make me feel better I went to Temple and Japanese Shrine I made a wish that any good spirits please help me I really don't know what to do Default This is the video I made for him last month ‪For Edson the love of my life‬‏ - YouTube about I and him and the good time we had in Japan It might be the last video from me 
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08-03-2011, 02:45 AM
I think you're beautiful and your dedication in a relationship is envious.
Your respect for yourself is admirable. Sometimes life doesn't work out like planned and that's not necessarily good or bad. Some relationships I look back on were beautiful but were relationships that couldn't be sustained. I'm sure yours is compounded though because you moved to Japan and an end to a relationship under these circumstances is a life-altering event (even more so than normal.) I doubt any words can help heartbreak though...they never helped me anyway. lol From America with hopes for both of you...
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08-03-2011, 03:02 AM
I am having hard time now
I can't do anything even homework or school I can't love anyone else I been honest to him for all the time I came here it was very hard for visa I left everything I spent all money for studying in japan just because we can be together Finally what I got is he said he doesn't know he could love me anymore Last night I don't go to school today I want to stop crying but I can't at all Moreover,Japan is very hard to live How can I continue my life without him I don't have so much friends I feel like world end now Why he leave me alone like thisssssss
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08-03-2011, 08:49 AM
dear sayakashi, My heart goes out to you sweet girl. Are those pictures of you and He? it is a beautiful video.
it is the hardest thing in the world-- breaking up. sometimes things are not meant to be-- I wish with all my heart that you will take care of yourself. keep writing-- poetry might help.
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08-03-2011, 10:41 AM
Break ups are never easy. I know Ive had my share of break ups in the past. Sayakashi, if you won't go to school today or tomorrow go out and try to distract yourself and try to walk as much as you can to clear your mind. That always helps me when I can't stop thinking about certain problems or hardships in my life. Try this a couple of times and if it helps you concentrate on your school work, try to maintain a daily walk routine for some time until you're no longer preoccupied with your thoughts. You can always wear sunglasses in case you might be worried that people might see that you've been crying, so if you have sunglasses put them on.
I wish I can say something to make you feel better about your boyfriend. For now let him be. I know you love him and want to make your life with him, but you also have to think about yourself and your studies so you can have the life you've studied all your life to have. From what you mentioned you sacrificed a lot to go to Japan and study, so don't let that all go to waste. If he loves you he'll come around again, and if he no longer does well you're better off without him. I know you probably don't like people saying this to you right now, but I am not saying this to you to make things worse for you. Right now it's important you get back to your studies, and it's the best thing for you to do so that you won't fall behind. I hope your boyfriend realizes what he's about to give up before it's too late. But yes, try and go out for a walk to distract yourself and see if it helps you concentrate. I hope this helps you. I'm sorry I don't have anything better to say.
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08-03-2011, 01:19 PM
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It's really hard reallyyyyyyyyyyyyy hardddd I went out to the park this afternoon and just came back room just now I'm still crying now been crying almost everyday since 2nd July the day that he been changed I know that what I should do I know If I were somebody else and look at myself now what would I sugguest to myself Eventhough I know it but it is very hard to live my life without him I went out at night walking around the station but still dangerous because strangers came talk to me I was scared My boyfriend always don't like me when I go out at night even going to buying drink at the 7-eleven But now he doesn't even care for how am I no phone call , no sms at all whole day It's hard to accept it but I will try I have to be strong even It's hard Thank you everyone for understand me I really need friends or someone to talk to Thank you all of you
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08-03-2011, 01:21 PM
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Thank you so much
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08-03-2011, 01:32 PM
Dear Bab
Thank you so much for your comment I am not very good at english But I want to thank you from my heart to you In this time Your encouragement is very important for me Thank you I'm alone in Japan now I was in Thailand 8 months ago I worked as secretary for Toyota President of Thailand I was model But he is working as labor position in Japanese factory He doesn't have much money I knew that But I still had fight with many problems and left everything in my life to live with him I trust in him My parent are in Thailand now I had quarrel with my parent before I came here I talk a lot and they believe in me that if I go to Japan I would come back to Thailand with good future a good man who I would marry him . A good job in Japan . But finally finally ... this is what happened I never gone at night I never talk to stranger or guy I been his good girl for all time but I don't know why How can I live my life from now on .. I don't know how
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08-03-2011, 01:46 PM
Sayakashi, things will eventually get better. Right now you will have to manage on your own. I know it's very difficult but try not to stress yourself too much about the break up. You can be strong, and you will get through this, but take it a day at the time. If you keep stressing too much about it now it will get much worse in the long run to get over. Take deep breaths, you can do this! You know you can.
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