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06-26-2008, 02:28 AM

It can work if you put a lot of hard work into it. Just know there are going to be a lot more obstacles to overcome than with a normal relationship. I've done long distance before. They didn't last because the guys were major jerks!! When my bf graduates college this coming May he has no idea if he'll stay in the US or go back to Japan - so I'm banking on long distance working out!

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06-26-2008, 02:34 AM

in my case it didnt work out altho i really still miss her




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06-26-2008, 02:37 AM

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I would love to know what peoples thoughts on it are. Share your experiences and opinions, but please do not speak as if your opinion is fact, I have personally encountered this problem many times.

I am dating a Japanese man, he lives in Nagoya and we met online, He will be coming to meet me in August and meet my family, We have been speaking for 7 months now and dating for 5. I intend to live with him next year when I go to Nagoya to be a English Teacher.

If anybody has had these same experiences or would like to discuss being in a long distance relationship please come and chat about it! I would love to meet people who are in LD relationships like me!
I wouldnt live with him if i didnt know him for very long i would get an apartment there and get to know him better first.



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06-26-2008, 03:17 AM

thank you very much ARose!
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06-27-2008, 08:59 PM

I think LD relationships can work... they just take a lot more work than normal.


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06-27-2008, 10:14 PM

WOW, I'm really glad this subject has arose because I'm going through the same thing. My boyfriend is chinese/korean, and he lives in Canada while I live in Maryland, sure it's not like an entire continent away, but it's still pretty long distance.

So far for us it's worked out, we're pretty light hearted about a lot of things and we really don't fight much, if anything we get along real well and have the same type of humor. It's complicated though because I'm about to go to a university for another two years, and right now in the work he's doing (he's older so he recently graduated) he can't take time off . But we try not to think too much about the future and just be happy as we are.

Good luck with your boyfriend though, one of my friends was dating a dude in Japan, and he's planning on moving here to be with her. I suggest not immediately moving in together, I know that when my bf and I talked about that I told him I'd be living on my own if I decided to move to Canada to be with him. Long distance is hard especially in your situation, but I have confidence that it can work out and that there are people that do find happiness Good luck!
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06-30-2008, 02:23 PM

Oh wow, I didn't know so many ppl have one XD
I'm from Holland and my boyfriend is English.
We met online when me and my friend prank called him hahaha
I'll never forget that..lol
Don't wanna spam too much with my stories tho (if anyone's actually interested, tell me and i'll tell u the complete story)

So yea I met him online,
We started talking nearly every day
After 6 months he wanted to meet me in real
Then we got together and we are ever since! 1 year 9 months in july
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06-30-2008, 02:55 PM

I think they can work, but they have never worked for me. It's so much harder when one person or both are insecure. And because you can't be together all the time, there is a lack of trust, I find. But that's only how it's worked out (or not worked) for me. Other people may have better luck with it.
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07-07-2008, 12:39 PM

Heh. In LD-'ship with Rei still.
I remember someone here told me it wouldn't last past a few months.
It's been 15 months alreasdy...12 and 2 weeks since I last saw him =<
Still trying our best...though sometimes it gets so hard.
But it's still there.


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