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I suppose my heart just got fractured a bit, but at the time it felt like he'd ripped it out of my chest and stomped on it repeatedly. We lived together for 9 months and dated for about 16 months. We rushed things and I'm naturally paranoid so I never got too close, plus I had an anxiety disorder that was taking a massive toll on me and he couldn't stand that I wasn't 'normal'. He broke up with me the day after our 16th month anniversary. We decided to try to stay friends, where I found out less than a week after we broke up he'd already gotten a friends with benefits and was trying to get she and I to be friends.

While I don't doubt he loved me, I think he needs time to grow the hell up. It didn't help he was a total porn and sex addict either. I never allowed myself to get too close to him, so I didn't fall head over heels in love with them that's why I walked away with a little crack rather than pieces.
did he have this friend with benifits while u 2 were dating?


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Hasn't everyone had a broken heart at sometime or another? I know my heart has gone through the grinder before. Time heals all though.
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Hasn't everyone had a broken heart at sometime or another? I know my heart has gone through the grinder before. Time heals all though.
well there may have been a lot of people here who have had broken hearts but its nice to see the people who do have broken hearts and support them lol. what happened to you?


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Oh agree support helps make it so much easier.

My story... Was a long time ago. He was my best friend long before it turned into anything more. For a long time after we realized how we felt we fought it. haha we did a very poor job of that if you ask me! We did end up together but... People can know someone too well. That was our case. We knew each other so well that eventually his natural protective nature and my friendly personality clashed. I had left our home town for the military and made lots of new friends. Many of whom happened to be male. (the military is still a mainly male group) He was very unhappy about that. he made some very untrue accusations and it ended up making us hate each other.

I do not hate him now and I understand why he began to get scared but I loved him. Still do to be honest. but we are different people now. I have grown into a very different person. So has he.

it is nothing compared to the things others have had to face but it hurt me.
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Oh agree support helps make it so much easier.

My story... Was a long time ago. He was my best friend long before it turned into anything more. For a long time after we realized how we felt we fought it. haha we did a very poor job of that if you ask me! We did end up together but... People can know someone too well. That was our case. We knew each other so well that eventually his natural protective nature and my friendly personality clashed. I had left our home town for the military and made lots of new friends. Many of whom happened to be male. (the military is still a mainly male group) He was very unhappy about that. he made some very untrue accusations and it ended up making us hate each other.

I do not hate him now and I understand why he began to get scared but I loved him. Still do to be honest. but we are different people now. I have grown into a very different person. So has he.

it is nothing compared to the things others have had to face but it hurt me.
well im sorry it had to happen that way. Do you two still talk to each other?


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Oh agree support helps make it so much easier.

My story... Was a long time ago. He was my best friend long before it turned into anything more. For a long time after we realized how we felt we fought it. haha we did a very poor job of that if you ask me! We did end up together but... People can know someone too well. That was our case. We knew each other so well that eventually his natural protective nature and my friendly personality clashed. I had left our home town for the military and made lots of new friends. Many of whom happened to be male. (the military is still a mainly male group) He was very unhappy about that. he made some very untrue accusations and it ended up making us hate each other.

I do not hate him now and I understand why he began to get scared but I loved him. Still do to be honest. but we are different people now. I have grown into a very different person. So has he.

it is nothing compared to the things others have had to face but it hurt me.
That's so sad. It alway makes me sad when friends go diffrent ways though it seems you two just didn't spend enough time together. Have you ever tried to talk to him about the things happened?

Well my story is just that me and my friend attempt diffrent schools after 10th grade, in germany you can either start going work or attempt school for three aditional years to go study after it, because from my village I can't attempt the school he attempts cause there is no bus connection and he had a problem with the school I attempt because his simblings were there too and they had big trouble with the teachers so his family hates that school. After one year and a half he told me that our friendship has ended cause he found new and better friends at his new school. It wouldn't be that sad wouldn't he have been my best friend for 6 years at that moment. From first day on we shared our hobbies, dreams and tables at school, in germany you have two-people-table from grade five to ten. We always spend our time together playing consol, pc, going for a walk with either his or my dog, going to cinema, etc., actually we didn't even have any other real friends, just some guys from his village we spend some time with at school or at birthday parties. That's why it was so sad when ended our friendship for people he only knew for a year. Well I'm neither gay nor do I still miss him but at that time I did :/ After all I'm happy things happened like that cause I also found new friends in my new class at same time he did and with them I have as much fun as with him and I even get to know more people and even girls xD

I know it can't be compared to things I've read in this thread but I didn't want to be the only one not posting his sad story


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did he have this friend with benifits while u 2 were dating?
No, probably not he never had time to cheat on me unless he snuck away at work or school [<-difficult since we attended the same school and our classes were close]. And a mutual friend of ours said that he didn't even speak to her until after we broke up.

The saddest part was they didn't even try to hide it in front of me, I finally exploded [after a week] and told her everything and threw a fit calling them both rather...uncolorful names and storming off in a rage. A few weeks later she got into a fight with him about lying to her about me and they haven't spoken since. Ahh Karma.

My conclusion is they're both easy and neither is worth my time.

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rebam - No sadly we don't. I do still go see his mom and dad, as I was very close to his family. My brother also talks to him from time to time.

Shanis - Well it is sad because he knew everything about me. We were on the same base so we saw each other enough. It just didn't matter because he wanted to protect me from everything and everyone. Nice thought but I am not an easy one to protect. I like the world and try to be involved in as much as possible. That goes for making friends. As long as a person is nice I'll try to be their friend. He thought this was dangerous in more ways then one. No we haven't ever talked it over. He left our base shortly after the split. I would like to but I doubt he will ever be comfortable to do so. I'd much rather just know he is happy then to cause him more pain.

Shanis, that is sad. Sometimes the hurts made by a friend are worse then those made by a partner. just because you may miss your friends doesn't mean you would have to be gay haha. Thanks for sharing.

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No, probably not he never had time to cheat on me unless he snuck away at work or school [<-difficult since we attended the same school and our classes were close]. And a mutual friend of ours said that he didn't even speak to her until after we broke up.

The saddest part was they didn't even try to hide it in front of me, I finally exploded [after a week] and told her everything and threw a fit calling them both rather...uncolorful names and storming off in a rage. A few weeks later she got into a fight with him about lying to her about me and they haven't spoken since. Ahh Karma.

My conclusion is they're both easy and neither is worth my time.

[Yes, yes I was immature, but I was hurt and angry]
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That's so sad. It alway makes me sad when friends go diffrent ways though it seems you two just didn't spend enough time together. Have you ever tried to talk to him about the things happened?

Well my story is just that me and my friend attempt diffrent schools after 10th grade, in germany you can either start going work or attempt school for three aditional years to go study after it, because from my village I can't attempt the school he attempts cause there is no bus connection and he had a problem with the school I attempt because his simblings were there too and they had big trouble with the teachers so his family hates that school. After one year and a half he told me that our friendship has ended cause he found new and better friends at his new school. It wouldn't be that sad wouldn't he have been my best friend for 6 years at that moment. From first day on we shared our hobbies, dreams and tables at school, in germany you have two-people-table from grade five to ten. We always spend our time together playing consol, pc, going for a walk with either his or my dog, going to cinema, etc., actually we didn't even have any other real friends, just some guys from his village we spend some time with at school or at birthday parties. That's why it was so sad when ended our friendship for people he only knew for a year. Well I'm neither gay nor do I still miss him but at that time I did :/ After all I'm happy things happened like that cause I also found new friends in my new class at same time he did and with them I have as much fun as with him and I even get to know more people and even girls xD

I know it can't be compared to things I've read in this thread but I didn't want to be the only one not posting his sad story
so do u two talk anymore?


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