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1 is the loneliest number - 06-11-2010, 11:39 AM

chill out.....theres more to life than a guy....and aparently he does'nt love you as much as much as you love him and as much as he loves the other girl so you should let him go.......find a guy who could love you as much as you can love him and make eachother happy.....it might hurt at first but thats life.....everyone wants to go to heaven but no one wants to die
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I had a similar situation this past year. I was with him for two years and we both knew we were going to part ways the moment he left for Japan (for good). It was all kind of sudden when he broke up with me with news that he was leaving the country. He was my first boyfriend and I still love him and thought that it'd take forever to get over him. But now he's married to a woman who I assume to have been one of his ex-girlfriends. I knew he had gotten into another relationship a few months after he left, but finding out they got married didn't hurt as much as I thought it would.

I figure, if the man you love is able to truly give his heart to someone worthy of sharing it to the world, then he has found his own happiness. The only thing I wanted for him was happiness and he's found it. And because of that I can finally move on.

In other cases, it just takes time. You don't necessarily have to forget about the person. I think it's better to recognize and be fine with the fact you love someone who you might not get together with in the end. Life moves on.
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don't take the wrong way.....it's a comlement :) - 06-12-2010, 01:17 AM

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I had a similar situation this past year. I was with him for two years and we both knew we were going to part ways the moment he left for Japan (for good). It was all kind of sudden when he broke up with me with news that he was leaving the country. He was my first boyfriend and I still love him and thought that it'd take forever to get over him. But now he's married to a woman who I assume to have been one of his ex-girlfriends. I knew he had gotten into another relationship a few months after he left, but finding out they got married didn't hurt as much as I thought it would.

I figure, if the man you love is able to truly give his heart to someone worthy of sharing it to the world, then he has found his own happiness. The only thing I wanted for him was happiness and he's found it. And because of that I can finally move on.

In other cases, it just takes time. You don't necessarily have to forget about the person. I think it's better to recognize and be fine with the fact you love someone who you might not get together with in the end. Life moves on.
you sound like you know what your talking about....knowlege is beauty.....lol and you just looked hot for giving this advise
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I had a similar situation this past year. I was with him for two years and we both knew we were going to part ways the moment he left for Japan (for good). It was all kind of sudden when he broke up with me with news that he was leaving the country. He was my first boyfriend and I still love him and thought that it'd take forever to get over him. But now he's married to a woman who I assume to have been one of his ex-girlfriends. I knew he had gotten into another relationship a few months after he left, but finding out they got married didn't hurt as much as I thought it would.

I figure, if the man you love is able to truly give his heart to someone worthy of sharing it to the world, then he has found his own happiness. The only thing I wanted for him was happiness and he's found it. And because of that I can finally move on.

In other cases, it just takes time. You don't necessarily have to forget about the person. I think it's better to recognize and be fine with the fact you love someone who you might not get together with in the end. Life moves on.

I admire you for being so generous about this man. That is a sign of true love and not wanting to own and possess him for yourself--hard as that must have been. I wish that you find the perfect partner for yourself.

You have a generous heart and mind. It is true that Life moves on. I wish you happiness in your lifes journey.
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I had a similar situation this past year. I was with him for two years and we both knew we were going to part ways the moment he left for Japan (for good). It was all kind of sudden when he broke up with me with news that he was leaving the country. He was my first boyfriend and I still love him and thought that it'd take forever to get over him. But now he's married to a woman who I assume to have been one of his ex-girlfriends. I knew he had gotten into another relationship a few months after he left, but finding out they got married didn't hurt as much as I thought it would.

I figure, if the man you love is able to truly give his heart to someone worthy of sharing it to the world, then he has found his own happiness. The only thing I wanted for him was happiness and he's found it. And because of that I can finally move on.

In other cases, it just takes time. You don't necessarily have to forget about the person. I think it's better to recognize and be fine with the fact you love someone who you might not get together with in the end. Life moves on.
That's so true. I still am a bit in love with the first man I fell in love with, but we both found different pathways. We are still friends, and you can say that nothing really ended between us. But we are committed to other people now, and I know that we are both happy for each other.

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Wow, haven't been on in a while, but thanks for the kind words, guys =)

I hope we all experience many loves and rather than constantly falling in love, learn to create and allow love to grow.
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it is better to have loved and lost

than never to have loved at all
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it is better to have loved and lost

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What are you, Shakespear?? LOL.
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Nope never. I've never really dated and am probably better off for it. Que cera cera.


Approach the world with open arms and you'll either be cuddled or crushed... I think I know which is more likely...
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ha ha no I am not shakespeare.

I love these lyrics very much.




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Some say love it is a river
that drowns the tender reed
Some say love it is a razer
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Some say love it is a hunger
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and you it's only seed

It's the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of wakingthat never takes the chance
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and the soul afraid of dyingthat never learns to live

When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been too long
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